What should I do with my in laws?

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you’re not being unreasonable. 
there’s no reason to be that aggressive with a small child. he could of seriously hurt his arm, wrist, or hand.
especially if he felt comfortable doing that in front of you, i wouldn’t trust him to be around your baby away from you.

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100% agree with the other two comments. I’d let them know that right now you’re not comfortable with them being along with him, but they can come over for dinner at your house one night.

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I think you and your husband need to talk to them and tell them they have to respect your son’s bodily autonomy. No means no, pulling away means no. 
But also, when they HAVE to hold hands and your son pulls away or says no, just to explain it. “I know you don’t want to hold hands right now but this store is busy and we need to to keep you safe. Okay?”. And at the very least, to be gentle.

What should I do with my in laws?

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