How would you feel if this happened to you?

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Hey everyone. So my boyfriend and I got into an argument after he stated that he would find me unattractive if I gained weight currently (whether it was from me eating myself there or gaining it from birth control). This really has me overthinking and wondering if our love is truly unconditional. This is a man I’m wanting to marry but God forbid that I gained weight, that would probably be a deal breaker for our relationship. It worries me even more because I struggle with my weight a lot. I don’t plan on becoming bigger of course but it just has me thinking differently about our relationship and if our love is truly unconditional. How would you all feel about this?

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Leave him! If he truly loves you he doesn't care about weight. My husband loved me when I was 115 lb and also when I hit 210lb. Now I'm losing again and he tells me he's still happy with my weight.

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My husband loved me when I was 75lbs, 255lbs and now that I'm 90lbs. He loves ME not my body on its own. That's super fucked up to say, EVER. Yeah, he can think it but to have the cojones to say it and to your face?? F no. You need to let him know that that behavior is repulsive and he needs to check himself. If he can't then there's lack of respect for you from him

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I might get hate for this 🙈 
In my opinion, love =/= attraction. He may love you very much but may not be attracted. And everyone is entitled to be attracted to what they like. That being said, even though I might not be attracted to my bf if he gained a lot of weight, I probably wouldn’t say it to his face like that. 
Let’s say you have a thing for a nice smile, it’s what you find attractive in men. Meaning you LIKE to LOOK at nice smiles. And after getting with your bf he lets himself go, doesn’t take care of his teeth at all and now they look yellow/stained/rotten/broken. Will you still love him? Yes of course because his personality is still there and he is still himself. But will you find his smile attractive? No, because it’s not pleasing to the eyes anymore. 
Again, maybe the way he said it was off putting, but it seems like you two are in a serious relationship and he’s being honest with you 🤷🏻‍♀️

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While I do believe people should take onto comsideration what pleases their prtner physically …. I think if a man overemphasizes your appearance vrs his love for u…. Thats a red flag. Women are basically gtd weight gain as they age and hve kids so… that would be a no for me. Think logically and dont let your emotions of “love” lead u down a dark and lonely road. Pay attention to what people tell u in dating. Red flags and red lights are usually present before u get in very deep like marriage or adding children. You will be miserable if u dont take it seriously.

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A real man that loves you, will love you unconditionally no but's or if's.
If you can't be yourself with someone then that person is not meant to be with you.
A real man will not judge you, wouldn't belittle you, or criticize you, he wouldn't make you feel bad.
A real man will love you the way you are and then after...
Dump him!

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This guy I dated in college used to tell me he would leave me if I ever got fat, even after having a baby. And he said if I did have a baby he would give me 6 months to lose the weight. So glad I dropped that loser

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If he truly loves then he would love you whatever weight you are

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Leave.. that’s not healthy.

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My husband loves me so much but if I didn't take care of myself and gained unhealthy weight, that would be a major turn off for him and I get that. Now gaining weight from birth control (which is actually 99% water retention and is supposed to go away after a few months) that's different and can't be controlled so it would be wrong for him to judge that.

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