He’s so lazy, sometimes I want to divorce him.

At my wits end with my husband. The only thing he puts effort into is his job, which is very important and glad he does, and his video games, but I’m sick of the zero effort put into our marriage and helping around our home. As a stay-at-home mom, I do my best to take care of the home so that he doesn’t have to worry about it, but when do I get a break? Even on his off days he won’t lift a finger unless I end up having to get mad, then I’m the bad guy. He’s so lazy at home that throwing his own trash away is just too much work for him. For example: a few days ago I counted over 20 empty water bottle in the floor beside his side of the bed… something so simple. He is messier and causes more work for me than our TODDLER son.

He and his mother had to borrow my car to go somewhere last week, and they BOTH threw their trash in my floor board from their two different food stops and didn’t bother to clean it once they got back, just left it for me. After I spent hours cleaning for car top to bottom.

Well today he’s cleaning his own car out because a coworker is riding with him for a work trip and there’s so much trash in it, the coworker would have no where to even sit. So right before he went out to clean his, I said “you should clean you and your moms trash out of my car while you’re at it.” I didn’t even say it hatefully. And he snapped saying “oh my f’n god I wish you’d just go one day without b*tching”.. I said I wasn’t trying to b*tch but it was rude of them to leave their trash in my car.

And he says “well we didn’t have anywhere to put it”………….. So I said “Uhm, all you had to do was bring it in with you when y’all got here and throw it in the trash. Instead of just leaving it in my car for me to clean up after y’all”.

He walked out and slammed the door. I wish I’d said “I wish you’d go one day without being a lazy ass slob”.

I do everything I can around the house for this man so he doesn’t have to after coming home from a day of work. And he can’t even do something that simple. Sometimes I want to divorce him because I cannot deal with his complete lack of effort and laziness. I really hate being in this marriage the majority of the time. Am I being unreasonable?

EDIT TO ADD: I have been diagnosed with OCD and I cannot function well in a messy home. It’s difficult for me to just stop cleaning up his messes and he knows this 😭