I feel horrible. My 3 yo is such a good kid 99% of the time but lately (a lot of changes are happening right now) she has been testing every boundary and limit. I had to get stern with her and let her know she stepped out of line (snatching from her younger sister, bullying her sister, sassing mom and dad, doing whatever she wants when she wants). I hate being a strict parent. There was no yelling or any kind of punishment since punishment only leads to shame and shame leads to insecurity and other issues. I just talked to her and let her know I wasn't happy with the behavior and how we could do better. (I think it's an aspect of gentle parenting?) Like I said 99% of the time she's an angel and I don't want to punish her for one misstep (or minor event or week long havoc) she's 3 ya know? I want her to learn not to do that. The tears and heartbreak she felt though broke my heart. 💔 We set up a new reinforcement system to start tomorrow so that when she does good things she can earn a special event (baking with me, or whatever her little heart chooses to do). Ugh just needed to get that out. I know she's got a lot of things in her external locus of control and she can't necessarily help it all but maybe I can nudge her to do the right thing.