Should I buy a vibrator…?

Question

My boyfriend and I don’t have sex as much as we use too, we’ve use to go at it everyday but now it’s because 1 every two weeks or once a month..and ever since I started dating him my hormones have gone up and I wanna do it at least twice a week. He has been studying for school and tired…but I just want to please him..he doesn’t even have to do anything… but I’m debating on seeing if he’s okay with me buying a vibrator to help me…I want to have sex so badly and it’s affecting my mood and making me really insecure. Should I do it? and I’m having a hard time with him on that..I’ve been asking if he wants too and he always says not now or later. I feel so ugly and not sexy and he tells me it isn’t me but it feels like it. 
We get in to arguments and stuff because I’m trying to explain how I feel about multiple things not just this and he told me straight up, “you don’t make sense” and yes there are times where I don’t because I’m overthinking and I have a lot of things on my mind that want to come out all at once but I try to do my best and it seems like he never wants to really understand me but always talks back and disagrees with me and never understands that I just want love and a lot of affection. It hurts and I cry a-lot. 
Sorry this is long, I have a lot on my mind but don’t know how to say it

Answer

If you want a vibrator then buy one.  You don't need his permission. 
The way you've written it I can't tell if you're saying he brushes off your feelings anytime you try to talk about them or if it's when you try talking about multiple things at once.  If it's the first, then you need to reevaluate the relationship because between that and sexual incompatibility it won't get any better. If it's the latter then you need to work on keeping on track and the focus of your conversations.

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you don’t need his permission to get a vibrator

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There are needs, and then there is just being needy. You can’t rely on just one person to fulfill all of your physical and emotional needs, not only is that unfair, it’s completely unrealistic! Do you have any friends? Maybe a hobby? If not you should look into ways to enrich your life, maybe see if there are any events you would be interested in? When it comes to buying a vibrator, it almost seems to me like you are giving him an ultimatum, either he has sex with you more, OR you buy one. Here’s the thing. Everyone deserves some privacy. If you want one, buy one! You don’t however, need to announce every time you use it. Be really careful though, that you try not to continue down this codependent path. Try to make the best out of YOUR life, and his opinions won’t mean EVERYTHING, you will have your own as well.

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Have you considered sex therapy or relationship counseling? Sex is an important part of the relationship for a lot of people and sometimes we can’t get through to our partners ourselves and need an outside perspective on these things. Maybe try being spontaneous, dressing up in lingerie, introducing new ideas to the bedroom, etc. But I also want to make the point that you don’t need permission on what to do with your body. If you want a sex toy, go for it. No one else gets to decide what happens to your body except yourself.

Should I buy a vibrator…?

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