Should/can I spend 3 hours on my bday without kids?

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Hi everyone! 👋🏽 
I feel a bit like a shitty mum for wanting to spend my birthday with just my husband.
 I barely get time away from my 2½ year old and my almost 5 month old. I just want my birthday, which is in October, to be child free (would only be for like 2-3 hours max). 
Is that bad? It's not like they'd even know its my birthday or understand really. I don't usually do anything big for my birthday, i just want to get a coffee and possibly do an escape room type thing with my husband. I just feel guilty, family members tell me that I should spend my birthday with my kids rather than leaving them 😬 the rest of the day IS usually with them but just want some time to myself on my birthday. I know its not wrong to want that but then I don't know why it makes me feel so guilty!!!!
Please can you guys let me know if I'm being silly for feeling guilty or if everyones right and I should spend the whole day with my kids.
I'm pretty sure I'll end up taking them out somewhere on the weekend anyway because of my guilt😂 so it will probably make up for the fact I want to leave them for a few hours

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You are absolutely entitled to take time by your myself regardless of what day it is and it does not make you a shitty mum and you shouldn’t feel guilty

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You shouldn’t feel bad at all, we all need and deserve a break at some point. You’re a parent but also don’t forget who you are too. My birthday is in November and me & my partner are planning to go away for a night or two because we NEVER get time for ourselves with a 6 year old & an 11 month old, I can’t wait to have him all to myself for once 😋

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You are being silly. You are an adult and know your own desires and needs and dont need to let outside voices in. Do what is within reason and is necessary to refill and recharge because u can not pour from an empty cup! (Leave the kids with a responsible trustworthy adult.)

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Your family wouldn’t criticize if you were having a date night any other day of the year, so they certainly shouldn’t for your birthday. Keeping a strong foundation for your marriage is for your kids.

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I did this, had an overnight :) They were happy to see us the next day and I had no guilt. First time I ever did that. It was my 30th :)

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Why would spending alone, adult time with your husband be bad?

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Your family doesn't really have an opinion on this, do they spend everyday with the kids? Not wrong at all for wanting time away, no alone time is not healthy. Sometimes alone time isn't possible but if it is, why not take it? I would, I also spend all day every day with my child and it gets overwhelming over time.

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You don't stop being human the moment you become a parent. Every adult needs their own time. If that means celebrating a milestone kid-free, do it! Enjoy it and don't feel guilty! Those babes need happy parents. 💖

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Get a babysitter and ENJOY your birthday!!

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I gave birth to my first child two months before my 21st birthday. My mother in law drove a group of family and friends an hour and a half on a wine tour for my birthday while my husband and his dad stayed behind. We had a great girls day and had a family dinner all together that night. My daughter was breastfed so I pumped extra for her that day and pumped and dumped until I cleared the alcohol.

Should/can I spend 3 hours on my bday without kids?

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