Encouraging Your Husband?

I don't know how to do this.

My husband and I haven't been getting along very well. We're both stressed and tired.

He's the type to get overwhelmed and quit before he even starts something, and I have little patience and am quick to tough love him after my first 2-3 attempts of encouraging words are followed with "it's no use."

We were trying to talk last night that ended in argument on my part because we are opposite and it's hard for me to wrap my head around why he gets overwhelmed so easily. It's also just hard for me to be positive when someone constantly shoots my advice down with negativity. Anyway he told me it's hard to talk to me because he feels like I have no faith in him.

I really think at this point he does need lots of TLC and encouragement but it's hard for me to do. I want to. So I need advice on how to be what he needs. Thank you in advance.