Just a rant.

I just want to rant. That’s all. I already know what everyone will say, and I know no one will empathize with me. That’s fine.

I help my mom a lot. When covid hit, she lost her job. I found her a job, as I always do. I updated her resume and sent it out. She worked that job for the past year. She hated it and always complained. It was a job working for unemployment, so I get that it was miserable. Her supervisors were mean. She’s a hard worker and I know that.

My aunt lived with her for a long time. Finally, my aunt and her four kids moved out. My mom has a “friend” who is also her roommate. He pays half of the rent, so she saves a lot of money there.

In 2017 I borrowed $2k from my mom. That was a lot of money for her. I always intended to pay her back, but never had the money. Then I met my husband and I didn’t want to use his money to pay her back. I finally paid her back with my own money. I know it’s not my place, but I asked her to please put the money into the retirement account we helped her set up. She’s 56 and has zero retirement. She had been contributing $100 per paycheck for the past 6 months or so. I knew if I gave her $2k she would just blow it or give it to someone else, and I didn’t want that. I know it’s not my business, but I worry about her not having any retirement.

Well, turns out she tells me she’s taking a cross country road trip for a month. She quit her job to do this. She says she has plenty of savings. I encouraged her to maybe just take two weeks or something. I tried to get her to be logical.

She couldn’t have saved that much, as I found out she used the $2k I gave her to pay off a loan she took out for my aunt. She took out a title loan for my aunt because my aunt couldn’t afford to move into her new place. My mom has also been helping her pay her rent. I told her, “mom, if she couldn’t afford to move in, she can’t afford to maintain living there.” Sigh.

Anyways, I’ve been supportive of my mom’s trip, but she’s been kind of annoying. Her “roommate” used to own a body shop, so he helps out a lot when people need car work done. My little brother (21) has had numerous paint jobs and other various tasks done for the tiniest amount of money (not even the cost of supplies). My aunt totaled her car in a drunk driving accident recently, and he fixed her car for free. We asked if he could clean some glue off my husband’s driver side door and maybe repaint it, if needed. We just bought a new car and need to sell his old car to recoup the down payment.

He did it and said it would be $150. Great. No problem. Thank you.

But we haven’t been able to pick up the car yet because we have covid and my mom is leaving for her trip. She is dropping the car off on her way out of town. She has reminded me three times to Venmo her the money.

…it’s only $150. I don’t pay for anything before I see the work. If it were my aunt or my brother she wouldn’t even ask. It’s just annoying.

I know this is all dumb and everyone will hate on me. It is what it is. I am sick and I feel grumpy. Just let a girl vent.