A little background before I jump into things, I met my SO on bumble like 11 months ago. Everything was GREAT, loved it, love him to bits. Well about 6 months in we decided it was time to start meeting family…

He met my Dad and my Step mom first and that went great, we went and got dinner and all was good. Well fast forward about 3 weeks after that it was time to meet his mother. His parents are also divorced so it was just her, I was excited but nervous and I expected that so it wasn’t a big issue. We got breakfast together and it went well, or so I thought? We talked about my family and my educational background and the fact I was a hairstylist at the time. ( I’m an animal control officer now and love my job but that’s a different topic for another day.)

I left that day figuring she liked me or At least approved of me, come to find out she thinks that my SO shouldn’t be with me anymore and she thinks I’m too similar to his ex fiancé ( we share the same first name, I don’t think there’s anything more to it than that.) since then we’ve met a few more times and she still isn’t even trying to be civil. For example she sent him a few girls pictures and their phone numbers over text one night we were laying in bed together, and I was super upset and cried. ( I blame PMS for that, and the fact I don’t even know what I did wrong? I get stressed easily.)

He told her that he was happy with me and that it wasn’t her concern to pick anyone for him because he already picked me and so forth, but then the following day we had to see her in person at a birthday dinner and I had to pretend I was super happy and not on the verge of tears. My boyfriend felt terrible about this for about 2 months and still apologizes for it every now and again to this day.

However, today our washer dryer broke so he took his laundry to her house to clean up his work clothes while she was home and we were on FaceTime just talking because we rarely get time together with our work schedules. Well apparently he had brought up he wants to propose to me near Christmas and she walked in and said “ it’s okay if she’s a fling but I don’t think she’s the one for you,” upon bringing up my career change and how I’m not “ stable” enough for him. Just a side note, my job is through the government so it comes with full benefits and a retirement plan and all these great perks that would give us some great security for our kids ( if we ever have any. We’ve talked about it and want them, but don’t currently have any unless you count the two dogs we own together.) shes also not fond of the fact I’m so young. We are 7 years apart and I don’t think it’s bad at all? I love this man with all my heart and have zero doubt in my mind that I want to spend the rest of my life with him…he stood up for me and has every-time she has tried to say something negative.

One thing she’s also said was that she wants kids now and to her I’m “ too young” to be a mom and that he needs someone more suited to his age group and someone who’s ready to have babies now. As if she gets the final say in when he has kids..

Every time I’ve seen her she talks about her MLM and tried to sell me something from her newest line of makeup and I passed on it..maybe that pissed her off and now she wants someone else for him?

I was just wondering if it gets any better or if I’m gonna have to deal with this the rest of my life, leaving my SO isn’t on the table and I’m staying with him regardless of his family..( the rest of his family ADORES me, it’s just her.) or if y’all have any tips for getting along with her?