husband’s career/vent

when my husband and i met we were both VERY career driven. we were both boat captains, and he was ahead of me but i quickly caught up within 2 years and actually surpassed him in our field.

as we got older and my son got older, i realized i wanted to stay home more, traveling was no longer on my mind.. i missed too many soccer games, recitals, parent nights, etc. so after i got pregnant with our second i decided to become a SAHM, and i gave my promotion to my husband..

my husband gladly took it because he was on a boat in california and this meant he could be home more often in virginia (my boat stayed on the east coast a majority of the time and we docked in virginia during the winter). we also agreed that this will be the last time he transfers boats.

sounds awesome right ?!

well lately i’ve noticed he really misses being able to pick up a captains job wherever/whenever. i’ve ALWAYS been supportive of any career moves he’s done, that’s why he was sailing from cali to hawaii to guam to alaska for over a year. anytime something comes up i’ve encouraged him to do it even if it seemed outlandish.. but like i said we’re getting older, and he’s missed more stuff than i have, and with a new baby- i just don’t think it’s smart sailing for 3+ months at a time.. we have to start getting our priorities straight before our kids grow up not knowing who we are.

anyways, a friend(C) from our old boat stayed over last night and he’s 38, no family, nothing tying him to one place, really the perfect person to work in that field because he’s a drifter and loves traveling. C came in and was like “y’all will never guess what just happened!” and told us that he’s been offered a job on a boat in hawaii and how it’s sailing to mexico and then south america, then he said they’re also looking for a captain. i saw my husband’s face light up and then it was like reality hit and he was like “oh sounds great..” he looked so disappointed.

i just feel like the worst wife because i know if me and the kids weren’t here he’d be on that boat ASAP and if this was last year i would’ve been racing him there lol..

idk i guess this is just a vent