Boyfriend commenting on another girls boobs?

Question

Hi ladies. Just wanting opinions here
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 years, I'm 21 and he is 23. There is a 6 year difference between him and his sister. His sister has a best friend who has been in their lives for many years ( over 20 years) anyway,
The friend got a boob job the other day and is fully recovered, tonight we went to my boyfriends sisters house for dinner and the friend was there, my boyfriend then says to me  " now we get to see her new boobs, I'm gonna tell her they look good " so I told him " no you're not" and then he got defensive and told me to relax so I said I'm relaxed but you're not gonna say that to her. I just personally find it disrespectful to me. 
Anyway, couple hours later while we eating dinner he asks her how was recovery and if she's better now and then he said " I won't lie i was scared to hug you because they're so big" 
Like, is that not disrespectful or am I just overreacting??

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Girl, she obviously felt like she needed the boobs to be done to boost her own confidence. You need to work out why you feel threatened by this? He just sounds like a supportive friend. If he pretended not to notice something that is obviously a big change to someone’s figure it would be odd and probably hurt her feelings which is clearly something he didn’t want to do. It doesn’t mean he’s more attracted to her than you or anything else. Maybe ask him to compliment you more in the future.

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I think it’s incredibly weird and disrespectful. Grown men don’t need to be commenting on teen girl’s breasts.

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Now we get to see her new boobs....so he's been thinking about it and this is actually  someone you guys know so I do feel thats a boundary that shouldn't be crossed in a relationship. Its not like the comment was made about a famous  star or something. 
Its messy and disrespectful and why is it necessary in the first place

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You’re overreacting.

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I doubt he’s interested in her like that for him to be commenting on her breast in that way. It’s a big procedure n she’s been a family friend for years. If you feel he likes fake boobs ask him, I wouldn’t say you’re overreacting but I don’t believe he was disrespectful, him becoming defensive is a little weird because he could have just understood but sometimes they don’t in the moment. You have a right to feel how you do. Just have a convo with him & explain as to why it bothered you :)

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I understand your point of view but maybe she’s struggled with her own self image issues and he knows that, a compliment goes along way, especially when you just paid a lot of money to get something put in your body to make you look better. Take it with a grain of salt I’m sure he meant it as a self esteem booster for her not in a sexual way. Id say set a healthy boundary like telling him “nothing against her but I just don’t feel comfortable with you talking to her about her boobs.” Or maybe even ask him if he would enjoy it if you complimented another mans penis. Hope it works out! Try not to look too deep into it. Remember he’s with you not her ❤️

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Personally I think you have every right to feel how you feel I mean these girls have good points and all but if you told him you’re uncomfortable with a comment he wants to make he should respect that. Considering that he would know you’re insecure about your boobs he shouldn’t have commented on someone else’s he shouldn’t even be interested even if they were his friend’s it’s plain disrespectful to you and it probably was really awkward.

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Honestly I think you’re overreacting. After 4 months of dating, I would think you’d be close enough to his life long friend to understand she’s probably like a sister, and try to be just as close to her. She got them done because they make her feel good, I’m sure she would’ve even appreciated a compliment or comment from you. She probably didn’t even care that he commented, he was just pointing out the obvious to someone he’s known his entire life.

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He did tell you in advance that he was going compliment her, and it sounds like he only did it to make her feel good. I just don't see it as that big of a deal. I feel like maybe if he just came out and said it during a conversation without consulting you about it then I could understand being somewhat upset.

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I’d probably compliment her too. Especially if it was an obvious boob job that everyone knew about (which sounds like it was) Help boost her confidence!

Boyfriend commenting on another girls boobs?

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