So we’ve been having this discussion for some time now… my husband wants two kids and I want 4. He manages to present really well put together arguments about how we’ll be able to spend more time connecting with our children on an individual emotional level if we have less and we’ll be more capable of the vacations and stuff that I’d absolutely love to do as a family. Things like Disney world and Charleston, SC and family reunions… but I grew up in a big family and I can’t think of a better reason to have 4 kids (really 3 but he doesn’t want odd numbers because kids could be left out) except that I want to. It’s just hard to compete with someone who can argue effectively and I know he’s right about most of what he says. Just emotionally I can’t accept it. And it’s not like he’s the one who wants more and I can just say it’s my body we’re talking about here so I can say if I want to have more kids or not. And number of kids is kind of hard to compromise… at least in this situation we’re struggling to find one. I just want more than he does

Edit: we discussed it before marriage and we both originally wanted more than either of us is saying. We have one kid now and still don’t want less than two. Love our baby to death but we want to make sure he has at least one sibling. It’s definitely not worth leaving him over; it’s not even really an argument so much as a discussion/debate. There’s not anger or frustration whenever the topic is brought up. Also no matter what happens if I somehow can’t have any more or we agree on two I will love my family and I would do anything for them