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Me(15) and my boyfriend (18) have been dating for almost 3 years. Me and him would love kids but we both want to wait until im at least almost 18. Me and him have been having sex and we plan the days we have sex. I can't get on birth control and im allergic to condoms. I have a big fear of getting pregnant right now because of my mom. He wants to do it more because he has to move soon. I don't know what to do

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You are coming up with an excuse for every solution people are giving you. And these are good solutions, it’s clear you have a number of options to stop yourself falling pregnant. 
Latex free condoms aren’t rare. A lot of people have latex allergies which is why they are so readily available. If you really are struggling to find them in store look online. 
I’m sure your therapist would also prefer you being safe rather than risking pregnancy. If he/she isn’t willing to discuss alternative methods with you I would be finding a new therapist. No therapist should be advocating for unsafe sex for teens. 
Go and see an OBGYN. Tell them your allergies and problems with birth control and they will help you find the solution that’s going to work for you. 
If you feel you are mature enough to be having sex then you are mature enough to take responsibility for your own birth control. You have options, you just need to look into them and take action.

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I debated on even commenting on this because I've read all the replies.  Whether you want to admit it or not, you are finding an excuse for every solution given to you.  You, as a 15 year old, should not even be discussing having children yet.  @18 you will be lucky enough to have a decent paying job and even luckier if you get paid enough to support yourself, let alone a child.  You arent taking into consideration on how much it actually costs to live on your own and on average, giving birth to a baby alone is $10,000.   That doesnt include health insurance, car insurance, phone bills, rent, car payments, groceries, renters/homeowners insurance or any extras you want to add onto that.  
 I havent even gotten to the fact that your boyfriend is a legal adult while you are still a child.  If you *really* cant get onto any of the 12+ methods of birth control and you somehow cant find any condoms at any grocery store or online store that work for you (Which I find very unlikely) then your only option is to either risk getting knocked up and becoming a teen mom who cant support herself or to simply just stop having sex.   Ontop of all of that your boyfriend should NOT be coercing you to have sex simply because hes moving away. That's stupid and in case you didnt know if you say no and a man coerced you until you finally said yes that is still rape.

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I mean, you shouldn’t be having sex. It is a crime.

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This is a cry for attention 😂 I’m 19.. I’ve been 15 before & this is literally excuse after excuse you want to get pregnant and you wanted people to give you the reaction you didn’t get. 1. You need to confide in your mother and I highly doubt your mother / therapist told you not to do birth control cause of depression, I’ve had chronic depression since I was 13. Along with other mental health issues, 2. I’m sure you’re not allergic to EVERYTHING I call BS. You’re obviously irresponsible and tooken advantage of and clearly your parent lets you do anything you want cause your phones not getting took. Someone needs to really monitor this and call cps or something. I hope you know how selfish it is to bring a child into the world when you can’t even take care of it, you can barely take care of yourself ! You’re below the age of consent so if you’re not 16 THEN ANYTHING is statutory rape unless your parents giving permission. 
Another thing, babies are highly expensive. You can barely work and you can’t have anything in your name and I doubt you pay your own phone bill. You’re really lost. It’s sad you need guidance and I’m sorry your father didn’t love you enough to guide you!

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why can’t you get on birth control? there’s places you can go without your parents knowing and get free birth control and it’s 100% confidential even if you’re under age and there’s different types of condoms to use if you’re saying you’re allergic to latex. there’s also more forms of birth control. having unprotected sex for whatever reason when you DONT want kids is incredibly immature in my opinion.

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Hi, so everyone else has said some really good points. Legally it’s statutory rape in most states, you shouldn’t have sex if you can’t find protection, you shouldn’t be thinking about purposely having a child at 15 bc you’re putting yourself, your child, your partner, and your families at a great disadvantage. If you happen to get pregnant, you deal with it however you want, but don’t aim to get pregnant before you’re an adult. For latex allergies, go online and order them (so many varieties and it’s usually cheaper if you buy from brand itself) some brands off the top of my head are skyn, and then durex and Trojan have latex free options. Check pharmacies, target, drug stores, Walmart, etc in person, but if not then online is the way to go. Also please don’t let your boyfriend pressure you to have sex just because he’s moving away. That gives me a bad feeling about how he treats you and how much he cares about you if he’s pressuring you to have sex. You’re already dating for several years and still plan to be together after he moves so like only do what feels right to you, don’t worry about his “need”.

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No offense but you were 12 and he was 15 when you started dating. DO NOT HAVE SEX WITH HIM UNTILL YOU ARE OVERAGE he can get arrested!!

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There are so many different kinds of birth control and you can’t convince me that you’ve tried them all and you’re allergic to all of them. There is a such thing as latex free condoms🤦🏽‍♀️ honestly you deserve what’s coming with your dumb actions. You’re a child trying to do adult things but lack the knowledge. Maybe talk to your mom about this?

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Being almost 18 myself, I love sex and everything but I am not ready for a child. I mean, I’m just finishing up applying for colleges and incredibly stressed about the fact that I have to get my crap straight in the next few years and get prepared to live on my own with little support from my parents. I started being sexually active when I was your age, and I asked my doctor for birth control and I was able to be on it. Not having an income or a car to get the birth control anytime I need a refill meant my parents finding out. It seemed a lot scarier then how it actually played out. They didn’t like the fact that I was having sex at that age, but they knew I was going to do it eventually or do it anyway and they rather me be safe above everything else. Having unprotected sex is incredibly dangerous and not reasonable, STI’s are no joke on top of the risk of pregnancy. If you were to get pregnant at your age I think there would be a lot more fall out with your parents then you asking to be on birth control.

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