Second, third, fourth time etc. mamas

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Ashley • 36yo💍💙👼🏼💙👼🏼👼🏼💗🤰🏻

This is my 3rd baby… my first, I had an accidental episiotomy (the doctor’s hands slipped cutting me accidentally), that was over 14 years ago. My 2nd came out so fast, he gave me fourth degree tearing, literally from my vagina to my rectum. Went right through my sphincter….I know, TMI, but I’m trying to paint the picture. I had 100+ stitches, the OB lost count after so many. It healed decently, although, my rectum area healed a little awkwardly. (There’s a very small extra hole…don’t ask!) This was almost exactly 2 years ago. I’m petrified that this is going to happen again especially since the area is sensitive still.

Anyone have any encouragement, success stories, that maybe this won’t happen again?!! Ugh 😑

And to make matters worse (in this aspect) my labors happen so fast that I don’t have time for an epidural, etc. so I FEEL EVERYTHING!

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I tore that bad with my first, recovery was horible. Then my second I only had a 1st degree tear (2 years later) then my third I didn’t tear at all (also 2 years later) now I’m pregnant with my 4th and hopefully I won’t tear again lol the recoveries after my first we’re sooo easy compared to my first recovery.

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Ashley • Oct 9, 2021
I’m hoping this is the case!!! I’m so scared to tear like that again. The recovery was horrible. So it sounds like there is hope that it can be better!

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Try stretching that area with your fingers. I have only had minor tearing, but my pelvic floor therapist suggested the intimate rose wand to help with my stretching of those muscles and tissue to prep for labor.

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Elle • Oct 10, 2021
Amazon

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Ashley • Oct 10, 2021
Where do you get that at? The intimate rose wand ?

Li

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I swear a water birth helped me, no tears and no pain. Some hospitals have them, maybe something to look into?

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Ashley • Oct 10, 2021
Thank you!!! You too!!!

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Li • Oct 9, 2021
Good luck! I know what you mean, everyone is asking us for plans for next month and I’m like I don’t even know if baby will come this week or the next or what so no plans is the plans 🤣🤣🤣

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Ashley • Oct 9, 2021
We do have the option as long as the room is available at the time. I’d love to try it. I’m going to talk to my OB about it next appointment, if I make it that long!!