My newly wed husband touches his genitals like a young boy who just discovered it’s down there. It’s very annoying. Don’t get me wrong, it’s his body 😌 if he wants to get his feel on, fine. But there is a time and a place. We have been together for yearsss but just got married this year. This is new to me, and he says it’s new to him too. He touches himself all day everyday: watching the news, talking to me, checking his phone, talking on the phone, during work on his laptop, flipping through the channel, reading. It’s especially distracting when he sits next to me and does it or when I am talking to him. No matter how serious the conversation, he has to pull at his penis and fumble around with his balls. He claims this is normal for men but I don’t think doing it this often is normal. It seems to be soothing for him in the way that some adults still suck their thumbs for comfort. He does it when he’s idle and when he’s upset. He touches himself so much that when I go to be sexy with him and touch him down there, it’s a 80% chance that the space is already occupied by his own hands! It effects our sex life as well because he claims the first nut is not as satisfying as the second one he gets. And I think if he would touch himself LESS then any sensation on his penis will be surprisingly delightful. (For clarification he does not cum when he does this. When he is masturbating to cum he will hide in the bathroom and is quiet embarrassed about it for some reason.)

I’ve tried to talk to him about it and be understanding. I didn’t want to make him feel bad at first by letting on how MUCH of a turn of it is. But he response defensively and get upset with me so now I don’t care for being delicate. He won’t stop and it’s annoying. Imagine trying to be vulnerable and open up to your partner but you are distracted by how much he’s fiddling with his willy. What do I do? How can I get past this? Is this normal for your man?