What can i do My husband and I fight over chores

My husband is very helpful and I’m very grateful. He makes breakfast for the kids and some meals when he can. The only thing is I feel like his love language is through good but tends to give the kids the less healthier options of food. As a mom, I really want to reach our kids to have healthy eating habits.

My husband doesn’t really eat healthy. He loves candy, chocolate, sweet stuff. So he will give our toddler apple juice every morning. Our son hasn’t been eating vegetables and fruits and it’s stressing me. So today he asked what he should make the kids for breakfast. I said I’m eggs with cheese and spinach would be good. Instead he made them with ham. And so I told him nicely, “can we do spinach next time?” And he got super angry and threw the eggs away and said I should make the breakfast myself if I’m going to give him notes.

He said if I had been watching our son then he would have had time to add spinach but because he had to babysit him, he didn’t get to. I had just stepped out of the house to throw away trash.

He is always offering our toddler ice cream, sugary stuff and lately, he likes mostly sweet things.

Then TV too, I try to encourage our son to play and have set times for tv like evening time. My husband doesn’t mind starting and ending the day with putting on tv for our son and he lets him watch for a long time unless I take it away. He says I’m rigid. But I tell him I’m trying to follow AAP guidelines. Kids shouldn’t watch more than 3 hours of the in a day but it becomes an issue many times.

Now am I being ungrateful? Should I just let go of these things for the sake of peace?