When in your relationship was your first argument?

Question

Past and present relationships.
As in, how long have you been together/known the person before you had your first argument/disagreement/fight? Did it show you anything about if the relationship is going to work out (like were you able to resolve the conflict calmly, talk it out, did they show any red flags)?

Answer

I’ve been with my current partner for a year and four months, he learned that due to my anxiety, I have days where I have meltdowns, I get overwhelmed, and he’s just learned to let me rant, and when I am done, he knows not to try and fix my problems or give me advice because it just makes it worse and makes me angry at him. It was never really a fight, it was just me being overwhelmed and I took it out on him. We really don’t fight, this morning I was having anxiety, it happens maybe every three or four months, sometimes it cycles from my cycle, but he knows and he knows from a text message, he knows for my breathing, he knows me so well better than I know myself, he knows the instant I get wet, when I am sexually aroused by him, he notices everything. And I love that about him. He knows that humor fixes a lot of things, he knows that his patience and understanding does as well, he’s just learned with me that me threatening to break up with him I don’t need it, or anything else, he knows I’m just going through a downward spiral of doubts, and he just knows to wait it out, and he knows not to take anything that I say seriously when I’m like that, because I am the worst case scenario when I am in that mode, and it’s funny every time I feel like I’m done, we just get stronger and stronger relationship, and it’s more passionate every single time,. We are still like day one when we see each other all over each other. Intense, passionate, little rough, but I like it, fun kind of rough. But relationships or what you make them, effort and consistency are important, patience and understanding, what I love about him is that because he’s a lawyer, any kind of conflict that arises gets resolved immediately, he knows sometimes I just need to vent, or be alone, and he’s great with that, he knows it’s hard for me to talk about what I feel, but I’ve known him 20+ years, we’ve been friends, business associates, and it was just timing. He always had feelings for me but I never took them seriously. I always thought it was for shits and giggles, and with our age gap, that too. How do you approach me when I was in my 20s, I would’ve looked at him like he was a creepy old man, now that I’m 43 is a different story. We both are business owners, we both own homes, his kids are college age, it’s not like he’s looking for me to drive them around town and babysit, it’s a totally different ballgame, he’s an empty Nester it’s like we are a single couple pre kids. I don’t think we even had a fight, per se until about a year and because I didn’t have feelings for him until about 11 months in, we had sex and stuff, but I was still stuck on my ex and honesty and he knew it. Actually gotten better over time. And the more time that we spend together, the better it is. We had to figure out sex, we had to figure out emotions, we had to figure out stress and work and anxiety. There are times that he’s busy at work and he doesn’t answer me, there are times that he’s busy because he runs the law firm, everything falls on him. And he gets overwhelmed especially with your end things that didn’t get taken care of or things that got put off because of Covid, and I give him space, we don’t live together, he has a life of his own, he’s got his kids, but we make it work.￼

Answer

6 months on Valentine's day. We made dinner together, he said it made him nauseous and decided to play video games while I ate alone. 
I basically dumped him and he realized he could have handled the situation differently.

When in your relationship was your first argument?

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