Why can’t I leave him alone..?

Question

We’ve been broken up for 7 mo we have a child together & even tho I don’t want to be with him I miss him..? I miss him just being there and even tho he’s so rude to me when we talk I miss him ☹️ I’ve been crying randomly lately thinking about him how can I stop doing this to myself I feel like I’m in a spell he’s completely fine and tells me to get over it but even tho I don’t want to be with him I do text and call him a lot and it’s hard for me to stop

Answer

A lot of the time it’s not that we actually miss the person, it’s that we miss the idea of the person and what we thought our life was going to be. Especially when there’s a child involved, it’s difficult to move on. Like mentioned before, keep busy and find a hobby. It’s the best thing you can do for yourself.

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Definitely stay busy and open yourself up to things you normally wouldnt do or you find boring or dumb now. 
Get into painting, start with a picture of your baby's footprint s/handprints, then move on to making one out of concrete.  
Attempt to make your baby an outfit, start simple. 
Learn how to help you child develop. When to start introducing art, music, learn why you are suppose to do certain things like tummy time(neck/back muscles/stomach), feeding stages, take your baby out and show him things, teach him.  
 
Even at so young he can learn a lot and it will help baby to thrive and keep your mind off of your ex.  
I'll say, even if you didn't have a kid with him. The love you have for him is always going to be there. It's just apparently he isn't mature enough or ready to settle down or even be a decent human to the mother of his child. That shows a lack of understanding and care on his part. Which has potential to be passed down to your kid, if you let it. If you allow him around treating you badly in front of your kid, it will learn to treat people and be treated that way. Of course it could have the opposite affect but that depends on your teaching and how you yourself treat the kid. 
I say focus on you and build your life. Being a good mom and accomplishing goals.  
Make a journal book thing, YouTube it (really do it) to help get your mental state back on top and able to focus on you.  
In your mind you will have to fight it. Literally think, no I'm not thinking about you, I'm think about x,y,z. Think about whatever project you are going to use to work through it. If you choose painting then at that moment think about what materials you need to make what you are. What colors. Look up some examples.  At some point in doing so, you'll realize you are actually thinking about your project and not about him. And you will smile because it will feel a little better. And keep pushing forward because it gets easier on a daily. Not saying there won't be cold dark night that you'll still cry cause you will but it won't be in your nightly routine anymore and youll have the power of having worked through it some so your feel more confident in yourself apart from him. 
Then as soon as it's been a little while, I'm sure you'll run into someone else who's a better fit.  
It takes time. But as soon as you can say you are okay and attempt to believe it, maybe even feel it a little, you'll feel so relieved. 
Id you do the suggestion, id be curious how you feel a year from now.

Answer

Get a hobby and stay busy. I get that you miss him and that it is hard, but pushing and begging him will not change that he isn’t interested. And honestly, you are worth way more than to have to beg somebody

Why can’t I leave him alone..?

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