Anyone have a blended family ?

I just had a baby and I have a 8 year old from.previous relationship . My husband has known her since she was 3 and has never really made true effort to be a dad to her , Everytime he has ever done anything with her was bc I was upset and made it known to.him.that he doesn't try to do things with her and he did it for two days and went back to normal . Now he acts like she is the biggest pain in his rear , he calls her lazy and claims he never left toys at her age (8) and that he always listened to his parents and was "perfect" my daughter sometimes don't listen and leaves toys around but she is still.lesrning and doesn't do it all the time like he makes it seem , the biggest issue is the way he talks to her , he is extremely rude to her and has a horrible tone and attitude towards her he acts like she is an awful kid and whenever giving her commands he sounds like she is the biggest pain in his rear and does everything wrong.. he is never loving , funny or kind towards her .. and he acts like he expects her to be perfect it drives me absolutely nuts .. he legit expects her to be perfect like and adult and I can't understand how a person expects a child to know what to do all the time like and adult , it's really frustrating the fact that he has no patience for her and just uses the excuse that he was the "perfect child" .

Last night the baby was napping on the living room and my older child went to get an apple and the noise of the drawer woke the baby up so my husband held it over her head that she woke the baby up , with his rude remarks and tone and my daughter was quiet and don't know what to say .. I felt so sad I feel like she has to walk on egg shells around him!!! We got into an argument over this and I feel like he doesn't respect her or me bc Everytime he says anything bad about my child or treats her with little respect he hurts me deeply and he don't get it !!

Anyone have any advice with this or has the same issue ? How is your husband with your step children act ?