I DONT THINK MY HUSBAND WANTS ME HAPPY…

My husband doesn’t REALLY want me to be happy if it doesn’t include him. He completely ruined my 30th birthday by just bad planning on his end and making me late to dinner to the point where I just had to cancel my dinner because we got into one of the worst arguments we’ve ever had over it. He played in his game the entire fucking day. We were supposed to drop our kids off to a photoshoot by 3, check in at our hotel (that my dad paid for) was at 4, dinner (that my dad paid for) at 7. We didn’t leave the house until 4! Not to mention he wouldn’t pack a bag all day and last night was upset because he couldn’t find his shoes…

I was literally bawling crying for my 30th birthday. He didn’t know that I knew but my dad gave him money 2 weekends in a row to make sure I had a good time. And he just fucked off my dads money and completely disregarded my feelings.

All that happened starting on my birthday on September 20.

My 2 best friends knew that I still didn’t do much to celebrate my birthday so yesterday that brought me balloons, took me to get us massages and we went to dinner. 💞 it was perfect and everything I needed from my girlfriends! I just had a baby back in May & I have a 4 YO. I haven’t done anything fun in forever….

While we were at dinner I ask my husband if he wants food and he said no an hour later, then I ask if he’s sure and then he doesn’t text me back for another hour later saying, “fajitas” after we literally just got in the car.

We made a stop at the grocery store and I call him a again to see if he wanted one of their sandwiches he likes or something and he says “no.” And hangs up. Mind you, he’s driving from Fort Worth to Dallas so he could have literally picked up anything he wanted to eat, I was just trying to be a good wife.

So we end up getting back to my (parents) house and my friends come inside to say hi to my parents and for one of my friends to finally meet my 5 month old son! I go upstairs to say hi to my husband and he’s clearly got an attitude… she acting like he’s trying to put the baby asleep and he says it’s because he was mad so I went back downstairs and asked my mom, “ Was the baby upset at all while I was gone?” And she says not at all. Brandon just took him up…

I went back up there to get my son and I asked my husband what his problem is and he says that he’s so hungry and I should have gotten him something. BULLSHIT! He was really salty that my friends did something NICE for me. Something so simple and thoughtful! Something he still never even tried to do after ruining my birthday. He started talking shit to me and says that he’s not coming down to say hi and just being so gross and a sad excuse for a partner.

This just bothers me because I feel like he doesn’t really care about me being happy. I feel like if he isn’t included in something then he just has to ruin it. I am a SAHM right now at my PARENTS home at that. I have no one to take care of my son if I go back to work but I genuinely love being able for our kids. Any free time I have is always taken by him and my family (as it should) but I don’t get time with my friends… especially after my birthday dinner plans went to shit.

I’m not happy in my marriage right now. I am not emotionally intrigued or turned on by him anymore because there is just nothing sexy about our life. He likes to live off my dad and he always puts himself first. He complains about literally anything I ask him to do. He gets PISSED if the trash doesn’t just easily slip on out of the trash bin. Like he hates any minor inconvenience and it’s exhausting. I was heavily drinking when we decided to get married and have since been sober for almost 500 days. I have free wonder if I had been sober, would I have even married him?

Besides getting sober having my daughter have her daddy everyday and now the birth of our son, he doesn’t bring anything to the table. I was making great money and supporting myself and my daughter very well… after we got married it seems like my parents have to support everything we fucking do and he’s fine with it. Although they don’t mind, it’s a pain in the ass for me and it’s embarrassing.