Have you ever dated someone that had a drug addiction ?

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I was with my children’s father for 10 years and just recently broke up with him. He’s been abusing opioids for years and I’ve tried to get him to go to rehab but he doesn’t think he need it. Now that I’ve put him out I’m afraid that he will dive deep into drugs like he did when we separated before. I guess it’s how he cope but I keep telling him it’s not worth it and to please go for the kids. Should I set up and intervention with his family? Or just let him live his life. We will always be family and connected because we have children. I truly just want him to be well.
His family doesn’t really seem to give a damn though honestly. I don’t even get along with them but I’m willing to reach out to see if they would help do an intervention.

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Yeap and it was a nightmare, it was Horrible!...
I'm so sorry you are going through this probably try to have a talk with him or his family and see where things go from there but please put yourself and kids safety first......
I had a really horrible time dating someone who used drugs daily, When I didn't wanted to go out with him, He used to stalked me, to make sure I didn't go out with anyone else, He manipulated me if I ever broke up with him, He was going to suicide, He wanted me to have sex with him and other people which I never did, Once We went on a date, He got a Hotel room, we were naked about to have sex and suddenly he got up and opened the Closet door This Guy came out, I got so scared, I thought they were going to raped me and probably killed me after that, I started crying so bad, my ex was just laughing and saying i was going to love it, I Felt so unsafe and told them I didn't wanted to do it, The other guy put a blanket on me  because i was completely  naked and hugged me, He told me everything was fine, that He was going to take me home and He did took me home and since that day he became my best friend and helped to get out of that nightmare. I promised myself to NERVER EVER date someone who has an addiction, I thank God for my husband, He doesn't even like alcohol.🙏

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My ex husband was a meth addict. The best thing I did was let it go and divorce him. He didn’t see a problem, hid it, and would have refused help.

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Something you would benefit from us going to Alanon meetings or at least watching them on YouTube. Singing they cover is the 3 C's: you can't CONTROL it, you can't CURE it and you're not the CAUSE of it. They help you come to terms with the 3 C's and he'll you find strength to keep going with living your healthiest life, whether that person is getting better or not. He is not your responsibility, he is his own person, he will get clean when he's ready IF he's ever ready and all you can do is take care of yourself and your children. Protect them but don't completely shield them from this, it's part of their lives and eventually they'll have questions, best to not start out with lies or deception that you'll have to clear up later on.
I had been with someone with a severe addiction to meth. He didn't get better no matter how much I loved on him or pushed him. He overdosed more times than I can count but it never stopped him from seeking it out again. I had to leave him because his addiction was destroying us both even though I've never touched the stuff. Most people still doubt that I never tried it myself because of how terrible I was doing while with him but it was just from the stress and anxiety. I heard he hit his rock bottom when he was cooking meth with his two baby daughters in the home and it caused a minor explosion and fire. He got third degree burns on his face and his daughter's had some on their faces and arms and feet. He's in prison. Yet, his wife is still petitioning the court for reduced time because 🤷🏽‍♀️

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I once a dated a guy who was using meth, but he was a huge narcissist and very abusive that I was so blinded by it. I literally never knew. I thought it was just him and how he was. Well I finally left for good, and he spiraled out of control because of it. That's when I found out about it his drug use. Luckily we did not have kids. But honestly if I were in your shoes even with kids. No. You protect yourself and your babies, they'll never get help until they want. That have to need it. If you try to help when they don't want it, it only makes it worse. And an intervention definitely makes it worse.

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You can’t help an addict who doesn’t think they have a problem or who doesn’t want the help. 
An intervention is a waste of time. Rehab won’t work unless he wants it too. 
Theres absolutely nothing you can do. Kicking him out was the best thing. Most addicts need to hit rock bottom before they realise they need help.

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Honestly, I would tell his family what is going on and leave it up to them to do an intervention if they want to. You can just distance yourself and do what you need to do to protect you and your child.

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Dropped like a hot fucking potato when I realized what was going on. Too many things to see and do to be mired down and waste my time with someone else’s garbage 🤷🏼‍♀️

Have you ever dated someone that had a drug addiction ?

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