How often do you spend quality time with your husband?

How often? And what do you guys do to spend quality time together?

My husband makes me feel like im wrong for wanting to spend time with him after the kids are in bed. It seems like he just wants to smoke weed for an hour or so and then come upstairs and go to bed with me and try to have sex with me is quality time?

I don’t like this. I want to talk. I want to watch something together. I want to feel loved and important, not used.