Husband having lunch with female coworker

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Interested in others' opinions -

My husband has PTO vacation this week so he is off during the day and I am at work. He mentioned maybe he would go to lunch with a woman he used to work with today, just the two of them. Not particularly strictly business but they do have the work/industry in common still. They have done it before, but more often it is in a group of coworkers. He has joked that even when they are in a group, the wait staff always think the two of them are together (like ordering/paying together). I have never attended these lunches, or met this coworker.

Is this typical husband behavior or is it suspect?

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I wish normally care, but would feel weird that people usually thinks they’re together. That makes me wonder what they do to make people think that

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To • Dec 29, 2021
Very weird

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Danielle 🧿✨ • Dec 29, 2021
It’s also weird he jokes about it?

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vay • Nov 5, 2021
I second this. There has to be something more then friends at lunch behavior wise that is giving that impression

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It's not acceptable in my relationship to go out with the opposite sex alone. Don't care how long they have known each other. You go I a group or you don't go at all.

Mr

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We don’t do dates with the opposite sex unless we’re together…just a respect thing.

Me

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I have lunch with friends/male coworkers all the time. I don’t understand the insecurities people have in their relationships. 🤷🏼‍♀️

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Alex • Nov 3, 2021
You probably don't understand insecurities people have in their relationships because you have a secure relationship. Sorry I see you have a whole section of comments here, I'm not bandwagoning with all of it. I just saw you said you don't understand insecurities others have. Wanted to say that some people are still trying to figure out their relationship and their boundaries and maybe they are not with the right person to have those same friendships you have. I do agree though if you have that kind of trust with each other than that is awesome and more people should take note on how trusting a relationship can be.

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Lynn • Nov 3, 2021
LOL you're intittled to have your opinion and being secure in that opinion I've stated that many times below that's not what the issue is here. it's the fact that you put down others for not having the same time of " secure consistent opinon" like you claim you do. How do you dont understand that it what's mind boggling.

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🍫☕ • Nov 3, 2021
Lmao clearly. If she thinks all men do is sit and eat a meal with a woman and people assume they are dating. Obviously more is happening 🤷‍♀️. Oh well

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Doesn't matter how we feel it's all about you. There are some of my husband's coworkers I have met, so I know them and I'm cool with them. If he told me it went to lunch with an ex-colleague and went on about how the waitress' always think they're a couple, I wouldn't be happy.

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I would say no to my husband going out with this coworker only becuase he thinks it's funny people think they're a couple. The fact that he feels the need to say that would raise tons of questions for me. Yes, I'm petty and yes, I'm insecure like that. I'm human.

Ly

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I mean I totally would not be okay with this in my marriage I'm probably going to get a lot of heat for this from others but that's just how things are in our marriage. Only you would know what boundaries are okay between you two. Each marriage is different while some think this is normal behavior and are okay with this type of relationship others dont. Real question is how does it make you feel?

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Lynn • Nov 2, 2021
nope you're totally fine to be okay with it. whatever works for the both of you

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Je • Nov 2, 2021
I am totally fine with it. Just wondered others opinions and whether or not I was way off base by having no problem.

Am

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Go next time, if he puts up a fight then it's suspicious

Ka

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I don't see the problem of it's someone he's known for a awhile

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I’d be pissed