Having a shit time.

So I have a problem..

my partner and I have been together for 3 years now and we been living all over Australia. We have been home in Queensland for just over a year now and we been living with my grandparents. My grandparents are very old school and we have had our disagreements. They try to control what we do and what we eat where we go and what we spend our money on! We are in out 20s. We are very grown for our age. We are trying to save for a house. My grandfather gets very heavy drinker, he is a toxic person and he thinks my boyfriend should have all right to control me and what I wear, what my job should be and so on… my grandparents, my partner and I had a little fight and now my partner wants to move out and want us to live with his dad. This is a problem for me bc his dad makes feel super uncomfortable. He makes rape jokes and all that creepy shit. I am a rape victim and I can only hang this man in small doses. He makes me so bad he blames everything on his son and when we being out dogs over he will throw shit at them and who knows what else when we are not there. He had 3 sons, one has sadly passed and he has been gone for a while now and he still doesn’t have a headstone. His father was meant to get one but he has bought other things instead like a star camera and a bike and so on.

He lives by himself and this two dogs. This dogs will pee and shit anywhere they like steal food of the table and chew anything they want and get a way with it. I really don’t like this man but he is my boyfriends dad so I shut up about it. We have been at each other for two days now bc he won’t stay on my grandparents and I won’t stay at this dads.

So what do I do?