He somwhat came in me and didn’t tell me?

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20F and 28M
I recently was hanging out with a guy about three days ago that I’d been talking to for about three months. We ended up making out for the first time and decided to go all of the way. The issue was that we didn’t plan for this to happen and it was at my apartment. I had condoms but we tried to put it on him and they honestly didn’t fit. We couldn’t even get it over the tip. 
We ended up deciding to just do the pull out method, he did pull out and i thought all was fine. But tonight he just told me that he doesn’t actually know if he pulled out in time. He feels like he might’ve already been “doing it” while he was pulling out so some might’ve got in me. I don’t really know how to process my emotions on how to feel about this. It feels like he took away the right for me to decide what actions to take if he knew this all along. I really liked him before this and thought he might be relationship material but I’m not sure if that’s really forgivable. Am I overreacting? I know it was a chance we both took but he didn’t even tell me when he thought he didn’t do it correctly until it was too late to do anything about it. 
My period should be here about tomorrow or very soon so I’m not very worried about this resulting in pregnancy but I’ll still take a couple tests within the next month for safety as I know sperm can survive for awhile
Edit: not sure why everyone is saying it’s wrong to be upset that he somewhat came in me when that isn’t the issue. The issue is that he didn’t tell me he did. I could’ve took a plan b if we thought it was an issue but he didn’t tell me until days later. That’s the issue. He should’ve told me when it happened.

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As you already said, that’s the risk you take when you make decisions like that unfortunately. You can never rely on others to care about your health (especially your sexual health). You could possibly get pregnant or have possibly contracted an STD. I think it’s messed up he told you a little late and if I were you, I would probably end it there as he doesn’t respect you enough to be upfront and honest. But the biggest takeaway for me would be to use protection and make smart sexual choices next time. (Example if the condom doesn’t fit, don’t have sex at all. Wait until you find a proper condom size and try again.)

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I think you are overreacting because I don’t think he withheld the information, but more that he’s being honest about not being sure. Also how does a condom not even fit over the tip.

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The responsibile thing to do would be to tell u upfront. But thats what comes with….
1. Unprotected sex
2. unprotected sex with a guy you not in committed relationship with
3. Sex with no adequate birth control or contraception
I encourage women to take on full responsibility of making sure they use adequate protection because ALL the responsibilities of a child will be on u regardless if the man stys or not.

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Your over reacting, yes he should have said something sooner so you could have gotten plan b he didn’t intentionally lie a lot of men can’t tell when they start to precum and you allow him to go in without a condom and agreed to go the pullout method which this that exact reason isn’t reliable so your equally responsible for the risk, he is probably just a nervous about it as you
I also advise getting tested for STD as you don’t know who else he has been with

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What were you expecting? The pullout method is never safe. You’re responsible for your own sexual health and should have insisted on buying the right size or went and got plan b afterwards. Yes he should have told you afterwards, but this was a risk regardless of wether he was sure he didn’t. Precum contains sperm too yknow. This is not all on him.

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Like you said it's a chance you both were willing to take. If you both wanted to be protected, you guys would have went and got condoms that actually fit, he was honest with you about what may have happened. I'd honestly get checked though because pregnancy is not the only thing that can happen through unprotected sex.

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Condoms are so stretchy. It should have fitted. But you might be fine.  Also, there’s buy first response 6 days sooner to test for pregnancy.

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You CHOSE to have unprotected sex with him. Pullout isn’t birth control for this reason. You should not have unprotected sex. Period. Y’all should’ve stopped and gone to the drug store for the right size condom. You cannot simply blame him here. With that said he should’ve told you if he felt unsure.

He somwhat came in me and didn’t tell me?

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