I’m in a weird situation. I’m trying to communicate with my husband and we do have some issues. He says he’s listening he says he wants better for us too, BUT his actions don’t align. It’s offensive even. It’s like someone smacking you and saying “I’m not hurting you”. I’m just sick of it. I don’t want to have an affair, never. But tbh I don’t even feel like I’m in a relationship. I feel like I have a roommate who I don’t even get along with very well. My expectations were husband/wife roles. Honestly I think we both deserve to have what we want. We aren’t getting that. I don’t want to quit on this marriage. We are only 5 months in! Friends since kids. Together for 5 YEARS. I don’t want to quit on us without giving it a fair shot. But he drags his feet at the slightest bit of effort. He says he’s not giving up but I’m watching him do it every single day.