How do I prepare for sex?

Question

So I’m 18, never had sex other than once but it wouldn’t go in & it hurt so he stopped. The first guy was smaller than this guy so I’m just worried this is gonna be another embarrassment and I WANT to do it but it just hurts. Even getting fingered hurt, feels like a bunch of pressure down there. I’m not trying to rush it either, but it’s just gonna be the same dilemma with every guy i decide to have sex with. 
When I masturbate I only do clitoral simulation and never penetrated before

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You need to be ready. Your body needs to be relaxed, and aroused. Lots of foreplay. If the guy has an issue helping you get your body ready than he's not worth the time. Your vagina is a muscle so if your nervous, not aroused, not relaxed , penetration will be uncomfortable.

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Lube. Make sure it’s not dry!

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You have to think of your vagina or your anus depending on whatever else is being penetrated, as a balled up fist, trying to stick a finger in a fist that you’re squeezing tightly, it’s not gonna happen, you have to relax and let your hand open up for anything to go in, that’s the same thing that’s happening with you, same thing with anal sex, there’s millions of nerve endings down there and of course you’re bracing yourself because you’re thinking the worst of course you’re thinking it’s going to hurt you’re going to thinking everything under the sun, so your body is tensing up and this is the reaction, you can’t fit your finger in a tight fist. You got to relax, sex is both physical, psychological, emotional, and sometimes people get overwhelmed and they cry, sometimes it is painful because you Actually have an underlying issue that causes the pain, some women have endometriosis, some women have vaginismus Or it could just be that you are not relaxed, you are not well lubricated, whether it is your own natural lubrication or a water-based lube, nothing that heats up or is flavor, that’s an infection waiting to happen. but it’s understandable why it’s happening. obviously clitoral stimulation helps to relax you, and also remember that 75% of the population cannot climax from penetration alone, clitoral stimulation is a must!. You Gotta take it slow, make sure you’re physically and emotionally ready for this, or perhaps you need to work on this with masturbation investing in some kind of sex toy like a dildo or vibrator of some sort and seeing if you can open yourself up, it could just be your anxiety or being scared to get pregnant or anything else, it’s kind of understandable why you can’t relax because this is your first time, your first time doing anything, of course it’s a little intimidating, it’s a little anxious because you don’t know how it’s gonna turn out, you’re thinking everything under the sun that can go wrong, you’ve got the previous experience really sabotaging things because you’re thinking it’s gonna happen all over again that it’s not gonna work or like you said an embarrassing situation. Maybe you need to invest in some lube, maybe you need to invest in some kind of sex toy to see if you can open up on your own, that way you can show your partner what works for you and what doesn’t work for you. And if you’re using things that vibrate, you may become dependent on them, and have a Difficult time climaxing manually, so keep that in mind as well. That happened to me along time ago, took me about three months to be able to climax manually.￼ good luck.

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Start practicing on yourself, you need to know what you like and how to get yourself wet and turned on, if you don’t know you can’t expect someone else to
Ensure you have lots of fore play beforehand and have lube to help

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Yeah it’s definitely gonna hurt when I first did it we had to stop and try again different times like different days I cried it hurt so bad

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Lube. Lube is your best friend here, along with slow, gradual foreplay.

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