For our LO‘s bday this summer, it became the topic of conversation for not inviting my SIL (kids were available to come) to the point that my husband fought with me because I wouldn’t change my mind. It was not what he wanted but for the sake of his parents. And I said we agreed as a couple now you don’t get to chicken out, it’s my house too.

Since then, my husband has literally distanced himself from his parents because of his mother can be a toxic-guilt tripper. And now he is truly for the first time experiencing how family separate due to conflict or self-interest.

I would’ve loved to make a X-mas dinner at our place with family but this would cause an uproar for excluding SIL with Husband.

I somehow feel that we cannot decide who to invite on family events at our home.

They are not interested to be in our lives and I don’t feel comfortable having someone at my house just to please others.