My MIL is a real piece of work. She's very very selfish and she, like the rest of my husband's family, just uses us. BUT she's still his mom, and I recognize that. Maybe more than he does.

She sold her homes and is now homeless. She's waiting for her older son (age 50) to get his life together and buy a house with her. He's a complete flake, so she's dumb for doing this. He is unemployed and homeless as well. She originally asked to come stay in September. We said she could stay for a month. She got offended. Even though she only asked to stay for 2 weeks. Ha. Then suddenly the 50 year son developed bad asthma and she said she had to go to NY to care for him. 🙄 At this time, my infant was also having major surgery, but that's a different story. She ended up staying there for 2 weeks. She said she was coming after that. She did not come.

She tried to get us to agree to have her here for the holidays, but we didn't want that. She's so much drama and stress. She also has 3 other kids. Two of which have homes and lives.

Anyways, I digress.

So now, she's been in Florida for x amount of time. Suddenly she's getting a hernia repair next week.

She calls and wants to come stay with us after surgery. Well, I don't even know how that would work. She's having it in Florida. We live 20 hours away. But we said no. I am a SAHM of two young kids, and I truly don't feel I could take on whatever caretaking responsibility comes with her surgery. My husband doesn't want her here in general, but we both feel bad that out of everyone she has, no one will care for her after surgery. I told him if he really wanted her to come, I would make it work. He said he didn't want her to.

I feel bad, but I also hate that she has put herself in this situation, unfortunately. 😬