Sometimes I find myself wondering, if I’d be better off without him.

He’s not there for me the way I need him to be.

Example, my grandma had emergency triple bypass surgery so I went to visit her the night before in ICU. I came home to my husband and just lost it. I started crying saying I feel so bad for her and I love her so much. His response? “Crying isn’t gonna solve anything and I’m kinda tired of you tripping over every single thing and being negative all the time.” My heart hurt so much more after he said that. I told him to leave me alone and he said “no problem talk to me when you’re done crying if you have something to say.”

That’s his type of reaction basically anytime I share my emotions/cry about something. He reacted similar when I found out my father overdosed on heroin and was in the hospital. (He did survive but I was so upset)

He doesn’t speak my love language. He doesn’t get me flowers or take me on dates, or do things around the house. In fact, I’m in charge of dinner, cleaning, laundry.. you name it. If I don’t make dinner, he’ll simply not eat. If I don’t do laundry he will wear the same dirty clothes days in a row.

But then sometimes, we are doing so well it feels like we’re unstoppable. I feel so happy and like nothing could come between us. He doesn’t cheat, he doesn’t physically abuse me, and honestly he does put up with me and my mental health more than others would..

So I’m stuck. Do I try to make it work? Or do I leave? What would y’all do? He doesn’t wanna do therapy. He suggests I do it myself but he doesn’t want apart of it. Maybe he’d come once a month or something.

Idk ladies I’d just love to hear your thoughts on marriage and when enough is enough.