If you knew your mother in law was saying nasty things about you, would you honestly feel comfortable letting her be around your child?

My kid is only 2 but he’s fully conversational; and like most kids, knows and understands more than you’d expect. My MIL is constantly saying nasty things about me - calling me all sorts of names like c*nt and Satan, and joking about what she would do to me to basically get me out of the picture. The worst part is she acts like everything is fine and cordial whenever we’re around each other.

So Here’s the other problem. I know she says these things because she says them to my husband. He’s a momma’s boy and I fell into the trap of “oh that’s sweet” while we were dating/engaged to the absolute nightmare it’s become since being married/becoming parents. Because of this, doesn’t stand up for me often - even jokes along sometimes, and while I was aware that was somewhat the nature of their relationship before we were married, it takes on a whole new level of pain when I’m the subject.

She watches my child sometimes and it isn’t necessary now since I’m working from home ever since Covid. It’s only about 3-4 hours a day, once a week, and while it is helpful while I work, I feel it’s causing more problems than good. Ive mentioned to my husband that we don’t need her help right now and he says we can’t do that to her…

I don’t feel comfortable about it though. While they’re usually just in the room next door, knowing how she talks about me to her own son doesn’t make me feel like it’s a good idea to be around my son too often because I truly cannot trust her.

I just don’t know how to confront the situation. I’ve googled and read other peoples similar MIL issues but I just felt like I needed to vent my own. If you’ve read this all, kudos. And please send good vibes my way. With the holidays fast approaching, I’m more stressed out than usual about all the obligatory family things coming up and how to handle them.