I grew up in a family where everyone did everything. There were no gender roles. I have a very traditional marriage stay at home mom and I love every second of that. Today I saw my next 20 Thanksgivings flash before my eyes in which I do all the clean up alone and I about snapped.

I hosted Thanksgiving, I say I because I did the cooking, cleaning, organizing, everything. Everyone just showed up. I also am the one with a 2 year old and a 7 month old. The only one with kids. So I am like super mom today turkey was on point. Perfection side dishes. Everything decorated and spotless and family in coordinating outfits.

The entire extended family got up from the table and left me alone to do clean up and with the baby.

I had spent days prepping and cooking and then stared into my kitchen full of food to pack up to send to my handicapped mom and to relatives who couldn't come and all the dishes. I was elbo deep into my farm house sink when I looked up at the living room full of men doing nothing.

I literally saw my future for the next 20 years and I became so sad. Never again. Never again will I slave so happily to feed these people and no one offer to lift a finger. Never again will this be the example my sons see. Never again will I silently stay in the kitchen.

I am the daughter a female solider I can shoot, change a tire, drink whiskey, scratch my ass, haul a trailer, and drive a fricking truck. I am not the only one surely capable of washing dishes.

Had a long talk with my husband tonight and he agreed Never again.