My fiancé and I took a break several months ago because we were having issues in our relationship. We got back together when we thought we made personal improvements and could better handle what we were going through together. Since being back together, things have been great. But I’ve noticed some old patterns that make me sad. For example, I feel like he finds it hard to help me. One of the situations leading to our breakup was about him picking me up. I asked him if he could pick me up from my moms eye doctor appointment and he said yes and that he’d let me know when he was on his way because he was coming from work. I didn’t hear from him again so I called him and he was at home, in bed sleeping. I asked him why would he go home if he knows we’re waiting on him and not say anything? And then I asked if I should just take a cab and he told me yes. Like why not say that from the beginning? I felt like he was being very stingy towards me. Well, something similar happened today. I was going to the supermarket with my mom and I told him from yesterday. I told him a day in advance and then 4 hours in advance and he still said no. Now why this bothers me so much is because he could drive 233miles, a little over 4 hours, to another state for a “party” that only lasted a couple hours. It’s not making sense to me where his priorities are because whenever I ask him for any help it’s ALWAYS no. Like when my whole family had COVID, I asked if he could bring us groceries and I’d send him the money and of course he said no. A friend had to bring me them and the friend paid. And also, we’ve been on break from work because of thanksgiving for 3 days now and I haven’t seen him. We live 5 minutes apart. I tried to see him and that went nowhere. We don’t even go certain places because they’re “too far” but that party wasn’t too far? I dont think this is the behavior of an engaged man.

And for anyone that’s going to tell me “just get a car”, it’s a work in progress. I paid for 10 lessons and 8 lessons in, I couldn’t continue. Apparently they have an “expiration date”. There went my $500. Now I have to pay for more lessons just to be able to use the company driving school car in the road test since my fiancé won’t let me use his. And I want to make it clear that HE DOESNT HAVE TO HELP ME. But I think any man that claims they want to marry you should at least help you when you need it. Why be with someone that doesn’t offer you help or turns you down when you ask? That makes no sense and it makes me so sad because he has no problem driving states over for a party but when I need help it doesn’t matter.

- I’m still with him because I’ve seen other improvements like in the way we communicate a lot better but yes, I’m starting to think it’s not enough.