im about to have sex with a man for the first time

so, i’m 23, and found myself in the position where i have not yet been intimate with a man. i wanted to feel safe and confident and valued in my sexual experiences, and, before recently, i hadn’t met a man who made me feel this way. that being said, i have been lucky enough to feel this way with a few women over the years. so some important context to know for my dilemma is that i do not exactly consider myself a virgin because i have had like … toys and things inside me before, just never an actual p*nis.

okay so here’s the sitch: i met someone (a man!!) who i really like. he is kind, respectful, smart, and makes me feel to important. i am ready to go The Distance with him. but there’s one problem. i forgot about pregnancy, so i forgot to get myself some form of birth control (pill, iud, that shot thing). and i’m spending the night at his place next weekend.

so… any tips for a (sorta) first timer who will have to be using a condom? i’ve heard many stories of straight sex being better without condoms, and i really want this to be a pleasurable experience. is sed with condoms that bad? will having experience with toys and fingers help this be any less painful? how does one have the stamina for straight sex? i’ve been so spoiled with soft, slow g*y sex. please just send advice lol