😕I need help

Destiny

So..I’m a virgin and I want to have sex but I’m scared of the pain everyone talks about and I want to masturbate but I’m scared…tbh I don’t even know what hole to do the shit in🤦🏾‍♀️….I’ve done some sexual things I might go see a friend in January for my birthday and we plan on having sex but I’m scared(HE DOENST KNOW IM A VIRGIN) !!!!please help me!!!!!😭 please leave tips💗