Why does having a baby tear a lot of relationships apart?

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Can someone give me specific reasons why this happens? I do not have children but it’s terrifying to hear about how relationships and marriages fail after children. I’d love to hear some realistic responses. I’d also like to hear positive experiences. What are some ways to prevent a relationship from failing after having a baby?
My main question is: why do relationships fail so frequently after having a baby?

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Lack of sleep
No alone time together 
Different parenting styles 
Money

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I think it’s because the couple stops putting each other and the marriage first. This especially happens with women. They’re so focused on the child, they neglect their husbands. The health of the marriage should always come first and if we put it first, we are also doing what’s best for the child. Having the child grow up in a home with two parents that have a strong marriage results in the best outcomes for the child. 
Put your husband first. Make sure you aren’t too overly tired to spend time with him. Get a trusted babysitter/family member to watch the child and go on dates with your man or just spend time with him. Some women think putting the baby first is doing the right thing because the child needs them and they end up neglecting their relationship so it ends up suffering.

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You have a needy thing which causes stresses. 
- financial stress
- tired irritated - can cause bad communication. 
- conflicting parenting techniques. 
- no time of energy for sex 
- paternal and maternal families disagreeing e.g where Christmas/Birthdays will be held. 
- change of priorities. Partner is no longer #1, baby is.

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Because kids pretty much suck. Lol. Suck the life out of you, suck the energy out of you, suck all your money, suck all your time…you get it.

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Not sure. Maybe some don’t discuss their parenting styles and how they want their kids raised. Some can’t handle the heat of the bay crying little bickering between the two of you. Sleepless nights get to you. I can say that babies can cause a little bit of arguments but only the string survive.🤷🏻‍♀️ maybe their partners aren’t up to their expectations of what they thought they were going to be like mom/dad. Or some change for the worse. Don’t wanna come home bc they have to deal with a baby, start smoking more. It’s a lot of reasons

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Maybe there were underlying problems in the relationship unresolved before the baby.

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Marriage is work. Having kids add another layer to it. The frustration for me is the unequal distribution of responsibilities. I have to get our son up and ready for school/daycare, work all day, pick him up, dinner every other night, housework on the weekends, walk the dog, bath time, bed time… etc. and I’m 21 weeks pregnant with our second and exhausted. My husband is a great husband and father, but it drives me crazy that I feel like I’m doing so much and he plays his video games.

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Lack.of sleep
No time together 
No alone time
Some mothers do the majority of the work.while the dad sits there 
They can't agree when it comes to the child

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Parenting is a huge transition that not everyone is ready for. Its completely unpredictable and sometimes no matter how much a couple prepares for a baby they still cant handle having a baby. With my oldest i had really bad postpartum depression that went undiagnosed. I could barely eat, sleep, or do anything that didnt have to do with my baby. I couldnt talk to my husband because i knew he couldnt relate to me about it. With our second i had significant birth trauma. 
So for us, my mental health (which was unexpected, unpredictable, and not able to be prevented) almost ended my marriage

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Besides what has be stated, mom’s mental health in general. Moms majority of the time are the sole provider or the infant. 
Postpartum depression, postpartum anxiety..

Why does having a baby tear a lot of relationships apart?

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