Coming to terms with Second C-Section?

Question

My son was an emergency c section, 5 years ago, for being stuck in my pelvis. (I was a teen and he was almost 10lbs)
I've had multiple complications with my current pregnancy but nothing that stopped us from planning a vbac. At 30 weeks now my OB sent me in for an ultrasound because I was measuring large. Baby is measuring at 32 weeks and over 3 1/2 lbs already but mostly.. she's breech. While we may have enough time for her to turn, with her being bigger too, I'm not betting on it. I was so determined to have a vbac, I've been fighting with doctors and my own body this entire pregnancy and part of me is thinking of just coming to terms with planning a 2nd c-section. It's sent me into an emotional spiral.
I feel like I failed with my son and this baby we had to try so hard to conceive and now this, I cannot help but feel like my body has failed me.
Please any mommas with a word of encouragement? Anyone have to come to terms with your repeat c-section?

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I understand. I had a emergency c section 3 years ago when she just wouldn't come out even with trying to suction her out. I felt like I failed and I missed out on the experience I was supposed to have. Fast forward to Nov. I decided with my son I would do a c section again. It was going to be on my terms and where I felt more in control. I was emotionally and physically drained from the first time around and I didn't want that again. Dr gave me the option but we decided c section. Let me tell you! Way better experience. Was walked thru the whole process. It was not a emotional roller coaster and I was happy I chose it. Recovering was easier too since I was not pushing this time. Someone said here it is a C birth. Not a c section. I like that bc we still birthed our children. It may have been not what we pictured it would be but we are undergoing a major surgery and putting out life and body on the line. That is not a easy way out and it is amazing. Good luck on what you decide to do but I will say it's a whole different experience with a scheduled c birth then emergency

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I planned for a VBAC until 36 weeks when the growth scan showed her head in the 96%ile and I suddenly started to question everything. Our first was breech so we had no idea how labor and vaginal delivery would go. I also have a bleeding disorder and an emergency section due a failed vaginal from a giant headed baby was really dangerous, especially if it was during hours when my regular team was not at the hospital. We agreed to the repeat section and honestly it was a breeze compared to my first. Plus I got to be awake (general anesthesia with our first). 
I always wanted an unmedicated water birth. I was extremely emotional after the first section feeling like I had failed. But I didn’t. My kids were born and no one will ever know what method they arrived (or what they ate for that matter) because they are amazing kids no matter how they enter the world. 
It’s okay to grieve the loss of what you hoped for, but then try to shift your mindset and focus on the positives, like no pain when you pee.

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I had to have a c-section with my daughter in 2017 due to her being breech and stuck up in my ribs. I wanted a “normal” birth so badly and I tried everything I could to get her to flip with no success. I mourned the fact that I wasn’t going to be able to give birth the way I wanted, however she was born happy and healthy and it was what my body needed to get her here safely. 
Fast forward to this year, I wanted a VBAC so badly. It was my plan and nobody was going to stop me. Expect the hospital 🙄 turns out the hospital I was giving birth at (that I also work at and have insurance through so couldn’t switch) does not allow VBAC births. I was devastated. I cried and cried. Baby was head down literally all pregnancy and I wasn’t even going to get the chance to give birth the way I wanted. A repeat c-section was scheduled for me and the wait was on. The more pregnant i got the more excited I got that I knew exactly what date he was coming- I didn’t have to worry about going over, water breaking and rushing to the hospital, or any of the un knows about natural labor.
All of that to say, yes I did come to terms with having a second section. It took me a while though, I was probably around 34 weeks before I was excited about it and that’s probably just because I was fat and miserable 😅😅. But baby was here quickly and easily on his scheduled day and the way that he was birthed didn’t matter to me one bit once he was laid on my chest (which happened right after birth. Don’t know the policy of your hospital but you can definitely still have immediate skin to skin, just make sure you ask) 
Another plus for me is that I was able to have my tubes removed at the time of birth. We knew that we were done having babies so I asked my OB if he would just take care of it while I was already open on the table. This kept me from having to have another procedure at a later date.

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Don’t lose hope on her flipping. Mine did at 38w3d and he was a big baby in a smaller person! He was born at 39w and was 8.2lbs. I had a c section due to other medical reasons.

Coming to terms with Second C-Section?

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