Umm am I okay?

Soo my woman part is a bit demented she will not cooperate with me soooo I recently entered a relationship where we have a lot of sexual chemistry or whatever it's long distance tho and I really like what he does we have similar things we are into and I want to touch lil miss down there but idk I have put a finger and nothing happened didnt even feel good and yes I have tried rubbing her and sometimes she feels good but it's just for a split second and she does get aroused like I get a twitch in my woman part soooo any advice or explanation