Why does everything have to be sex?!

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First I love my husband. Second, I think he is the hottest thing on this planet. But why does every little thing have to turn into sex? A post the other day really got me thinking. This morning I was getting ready for the day and had my top off. My husband came by and was like “oooooh”. I teased and said don’t you oogle me” laughed and said I love you and gave him a hug (after putting on clothes). He then starts grabbing my butt and saying he liked it. I told him everything with him turns sexual. He asked me to elaborate. I told him that sometimes women just want to hug or cuddle without having to worry in the back of their mind if a show of affection is going to turn into guys wanting sex and such. He told me “you don’t have to worry about doing stuff. I’m just gonna be thinking about ways to get you into sex no matter what”. Which is funny but not. Like, if I want to just cuddle on the couch it doesn’t need to turn into sex. If I want to walk butt naked from the bathroom to the closet it should mean “hey sexy time!!” 
He told me that through our whole marriage we’ve had an every other day routine for sex. I told him that was before our daughter and I’m tired af anymore. He said “oh it’s the age old adage huh?” and he then clarified “sex goes away after kids”. I was like “wth are you talking about? Haha it okay to have sex 2-3 times a week instead of 4-5. Is that what you’re worried about?” And he said yes. That he’s worried the sex life is going to go away because of kids. 
I’m sorry but can someone help a girl out and explain this to me? I’m completely confused. He’s concerned about how much sex or action he gets now that we went from 2 to 3.

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I wish my man wanted me that much.. he's your husband lol why does it bother you that he's in love with you & and is clearly very attracted to you? Just cause he tried or wants sex doesn't mean you have to do it.. but I promise if he stopped wanting you so much you'd think that was a problem too..

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I agree in terms of friendship between male & female. I’m sick of my male “friends” trying to get in my pants. But in a relationship? Things are different. I’m not bothered by it personally. I like knowing that my man finds me attractive and I can turn him on without trying. If you want things to change, just let him know.

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My husband is the same and he also knows that just because he’s turned on doesn’t mean we have to have sex. I also am in love with the fact that my husband is in love with me AND my body so I’m not bothered by it

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Personally my husband and I don't have that issue. 
I enjoy the touching. The advancements. 
At the end of the day if I'm not in the mood, no big deal. If he's not, no big deal. 
Personally pregnancy and children didn't change our sex life.

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I am the aggressor in my relationship, my husband would be perfectly happy having sex once a month. I still don’t have an answer, maybe people have higher sex drives than others?

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Your body belongs to you. His expectations are out of whack with the reality of your lives now.

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My partner is like this, sexual advances throughout the day but we only have sex like once a week, sometimes twice 😂 we had sex a lot before we had children. Some guys have a higher sex drive then others. I use to have a high sex drive till I had my two children.

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So you have every right to your body.
But so you are aware sex to men is often like cuddling or a nice talk with your husband to feel connected. 
You are free to do what you want as is he.
This isn't to be mean but to make things clear. 
I can't say for him exactly or you guys together. But removing sex not because you are legit sick or medical reasons is very close to you just ignoring him. 
He shouldnt expect anyone to show him care and affection. In return he may not want to show you care of affection. 
But how often he was able to emotionally connect and feel like you cared for him has been reduced and you're response was I'm too tired to show you I care. 
I would suggest talking to him. Discussing if there are other ways you can make him feel loved and cared for on the same level as sex.
It would be a great time to talk to him about ways he can show you love.
Again neither of you has the right to each kthers body. But neither of you should be together if one is unwilling to show they care for the other.