Or were you allowed as a child to express those thoughts, concerns, and feelings about your parents to them?

I’m not talking about when you discipline and your kid goes “I don’t like you”. More so when they make an observation about your character.

E.g.

“Sometimes I feel like a maid, dad asks things of me when he’s capable of doing it himself or doesn’t need help. I don’t like that have to clean messes that I didn’t make. He’s lazy”

**This was a debate we had at thanksgiving and I decided to bring it here. I’m still getting little snarky comments because I said that will allow my child that space as long as it wasn’t rude and I would care what he thought of me in that aspect because I’m supposed to be leading by example and in this case I’m not setting a good one. I also wasn’t allowed that space as a child. It’s like my moms generation and older felt kids feelings and opinions didn’t/don’t matter. I disagree with that notion of parenting.**