Do you think your man going to a strip club is cheating?

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Please explain why below

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I wouldn’t say it’s cheating but it is crossing a line in my book. I can’t speak for other women and their relationships just my own. I don’t believe in these types of places nor for women. It opens the door for your husband to touch be turned on and aroused by another woman. Some women don’t mind but I believe you set boundaries and don’t make it so easy for your partner to cheat. Now a days women are half naked all over the internet, social media, so common for people to say it’s normal it’s the body, and I trust them. I trust my husband to the fullest but also know temptation is real, and no matter how good of a man you may have things can happen when put in a scenario with drinking, and going to these types of places. It can lead to cheating..

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I guess I’m different but if my man is paying to see another woman naked and be touched by her, it’s cheating. It’s only sexual and to me it’s physical and emotional cheating because he’s enjoying it and physically there doing the act. 
In my mind, It’s like If my husband met up with another woman to have sex at a hotel but didn’t go thru with it, he still attempted to pay a woman to *atleast* see her naked and be touched by him, then it’s cheating to me. 
But I respect others opinion about what them and their husbands do, whatever works for their relationships 🙂

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If my husband wanted to hang with his boys there once every 2 years for bachelor party or along those lines and infrequency I genuinely wouldn’t have a problem… but any kind of routine I’d be upset .. I’d argue All that … my husband has so much respect for us I have to trust him if it’s the right occasion type of thing ..

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If hubby goes with buddies for the occasional bachelor party...no problem, go have fun. However if he was going alone, going all the time, or going behind my back, then I would take issue with it.

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Not in our relationship. Different relationships have different boundaries. Whatever has been discussed and agreed as cheating, is cheating.

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My hubby and I had this conversation when we were dating and agreed that strip club would be deemed cheating. That’s for our relationship though; it’s different for others

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If my husband is getting sexual gratification from anyone other than me, I consider that cheating. And he feels the same about me. Those are our rules. Don’t feel bad for not being okay with something that doesn’t align with your values.

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I would prefer my husband not go and he respects what I ask but if he were to go I know he won't do anything and he's still coming home to me. Also the one friend he would go with I trust with my life and know nothing would happen.

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Here's the deal, I'm a stripper. Women at strip clubs have absolutely no intention of going home with your man. Literally zero we are there for the money. Are some women prostitutes yes absolutely That is a thing. But most are not. None of those women have any intention of hitting on your man or going home with your man. Most men go in there and tip and they just want someone to talk to many of them don't even get lap dances. Sometimes they just want someone to share their feelings with. Oftentimes men go in because it's a thing their friends want to do. Ultimately when your man goes to a normal club to dance the women in there are the ones who you should fear. The women who go clubbing are generally going clubbing to meet a partner. Groups of women go to actual clubs to meet men so if your man is going to that kind of club I would be more afraid of that situation. Strippers aren't trying to take your man. I'd say 98% of these men who come into strip clubs have absolutely no chance with the women that are in there in the first place. The women who work in strip clubs have a higher chance of being able to date whoever they want. Most of us have partners or are lesbians or don't want men in the first place. Most of the men we give dances to or that come in we would never date. Sometimes actually the majority of the time these men just need someone to talk to. A lot of times they just had a fight with their wives and they need someone to vent to that isn't in their personal circle. Sometimes they just need to feel a little bit of intimacy a lot of times I've noticed a man's wife isn't paying attention to him he doesn't feel loved or wanted by her and he wants to feel that from someone. It's your personal choice if you think it's cheating but I would think it's something that you should discuss with your partner if you feel that way. Ask him in a nice way why he goes to strip clubs what does he get from it? Is it that he wants to have a discussion with someone outside of his personal circle? Is it that he just wants to admire the art? Is it that he needs the intimacy. If that's the case what type of intimacy is lacking in your relationship?

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I wouldn’t say it’s cheating. But I also feel like married men have no reason to be at a strip club. Thankfully my husband has no interest.