was i sexually assaulted?

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i will be honest… i don’t have any intentions pressing charges or anything bc of how everything in this situation could’ve been avoided. but i just want to understand what happened to me. pls don’t call me stupid or anything. ik that it was VERY stupid, but i didn’t intend to sleep over this guy’s place.
so i told this guy (that i barely knew) i would suck his dick. so i went to his apartment and i also wanted to smoke some of his weed. mind u, i never sucked dick & i only smoked weed once before. i smoked a blunt w him & ate an edible afterwards. but i didn’t know that i was gonna get so high that i would sleep for 15hrs…
i fell asleep before we did anything sexual & i couldn’t really do anything bc i was so high. i would wake up occasionally while i was sleeping & try to talk and stuff. and i woke up scared a few times bc i thought i was dying.
i can’t remember most of what happened that day, but i remember waking up a few times & telling him that we could try to 69 and stuff, and then i would fall asleep right after saying that.
but i couldn’t suck his dick. like there was no way i could function enough to do that. but while i was sleeping, i do remember him pulling my pants down, fingering me, kissing my boobs and stuff. and he asked me “do u like that” but i was so out of it that i couldn’t even reply. 
i honesty dont even know if i was sleeping. maybe i was so high that i couldn’t open my eyes. bc i remember this stuff happening but not being able to talk or really move.
i don’t think he had sex w me or did anything more than that. is this sexual assault or am i thinking too much abt it?

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You cannot consent while under the influence but if he was high aswell then it's hard to say.

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You were not lucid. You were not able to actually give consent. Technically, you could say it was assault/rape. I’m of the opinion that you claim it to be what you truly felt it to be. If you don’t feel assaulted or anything, then I wouldn’t say it was, just as my own personal coping mechanism.

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Throughout the process you kept telling him to do things and sounds like yal both was high as hell. Maybe at the point when he stopped is when he noticed yal both were too damn high to do anything. 
I'd say if he intentionally wanted to assault you he would have had sex with you too. 
So no you were NOT assaulted. Basically  what I'm hearing is that if you were sober, you would have been able to suck his dick etc but couldn't and now you feel assaulted.

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Do you feel like you were sexually assaulted?? Because that's all that really matters, if you feel like he took advantage of you, or touched you without your consent, it was probably sexual assault. No all of us run to the cops or even want to get that involved, so I completely understand if you aren't pressing charges either way. But how do you feel about the situation.

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That’s a hard one.., you were saying stuff about trying things but we’re also out of it and high, and I’m assuming he was high too ? He may have went off of what you were saying you wanted to try, but I do agree he shouldn’t have went forward with it if you were clearly so high you couldn’t keep your eyes open! I’d say it maybe assault for that reason, since you wasn’t conscious

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This scares me. There needs to be more education in this world to help girls and women in these situations. If you can not give consent it is assault. And you should not feel like ‘this could have been avoided’ it doesn’t matter if you went there thinking and telling him that you would give him oral sex and then get there and change your mind, that doesn’t give him the right to touch you in anyway with out you being awake and alert enough to consent to anything. As I was reading this I could a sick feeling in my stomach. I am 26 and have smoked weed since I was 13 years old and if you only smoked one joint and had one edible and that made you messed up for that many hours it makes me wonder if there was something in that edible. I really really encourage you to come forward to someone about this. No one has the right to do that to you. And you coming forward may help other girls that this “man” has any relationships with. Or maybe he is just uneducated himself and needs someone to tell him he can’t be doing that. Please think about it.

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Yes

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Well it seems, by your own admission, each time you woke up enough to speak you kept initiating a sexual encounter with this dude.  And well if you’re asking for it what man isn’t gonna give you a sexual encounter?? 
Also….
Man I have smoked a lot and I have never smoked so much I was unconscious like this or so much that it made me sleep 15 hours!  Wth. Makes me wonder if there was more than just weed in whatever u took.

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Kinda mixed feelings. Sounds like assault but also sounds like he could’ve got mixed signals from where you were dirty talking and asking to do 69 while high. So I don’t really know. But if you feel like you was than you was! Only your feelings matters in this situation.
Although I do recommend not smoking or doing anything around a guy until you’re 100% comfortable. But I think a lot of women has made that mistake!
I had similar experience with weed but luckily I smoked it with my brother so I was with someone I trusted. He was also glad I didn’t smoke for the first time with a guy because I could’ve got taken advantage of because I was zoned out laying on the floor lol

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Umm no. 
Also you told him you guys can do 69 
What if you forced him into something he didn’t want to do? 
But of course guys can’t say they were sexually assaulted? 
But now because you felt like he was doing stuff to you while you were both high you feel like you were “sexually assaulted”

was i sexually assaulted?

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