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I advise you tell her some scientific information why it is bad and dangerous to kiss a young baby, maybe she will understand better. Kissing can spread germs that can lead to illnesses, so it should be avoided when a baby is still small. And it's perfectly normal to set boundaries.
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I have a 5 week old baby and my in-laws live with my husband and I (we rent a house and each pay half) my mil has kissed our baby since he came home from the hospital and my husband and I think it’s inappropriate and have wanted to ask her not to. I have been suffering from ppd and ppa and finally have started feeling better after a week of taking medicine, so this morning I built up the confidence to tell her we don’t want anyone kissing our baby and she freaked out. She stormed out of the room yelling and said she guesses she can’t kiss her own grandson. It’s been really tense and I have already felt so uncomfortable living with them and battling ppd/ppa. We plan on moving out in February and continuing to pay our half of the rent until the lease is up in august, even though we can’t really afford it. Am I the asshole?
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Not an asshole, and I think your MIL’s reaction was OTT, but I can also understand her being upset, especially since you have been letting it go on for 5 weeks already. If I told my parents I didn’t want them to kiss their grandchildren they’d naturally have questions and be upset, and before anyone comes at me with “your baby your rules” when you set rules that go against the norm I don’t think it’s unreasonable to give your justification for them.
You’re MIL is out of line. My mom kissed my baby on the cheek right before she was leaving after a visit early on. She texted me within a few minutes after leaving apologizing and told me she felt bad and shouldn’t have done that, especially without asking. I didn’t even say anything to her, she just knew that it’s something everyone should be aware of, even if it’s grandma.
You posted this as a product recommendation, so I chose a random thing to recommend so I could respond. The bottom line here is that the baby is yours. No matter if your rules are strange to her it is your decision alone what rules you want around your child. I let my family kiss my babies, but if I didn’t want them to I would absolutely expect them to honor my wishes. You most certainly are not the asshole, she is.
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