Christmas rant (long)

So right now my husband's family is really stressing me out. My husband comes from a big family. He has 5 siblings, all married with kids, living across the east coast (US). Every year we switch between Christmas and Thanksgiving together. Don't get me wrong, I love them. They're family, and usually we get along great...

Anyways this year was a Thanksgiving year together, which is a story in and of itself. That being said, Christmas was supposed to be with my family (parents and 1 brother) at our house. Since it was not a Christmas with his side, we weren't supposed to be exchanging gifts. So my husband comes in and tells me that, at the last minute, his family has decided they want to exchange gifts and they're already sending stuff. Christmas is in 2 days, so i don't know how they expect us to get gifts together and send everything out on time. My husband and i dont like the drama his family causes, so we said whatever and sent everyone chocolates from an online store and they'll get it when they get it.

So that's it. Right? No more drama? Nope. My husband  tells me his dad volunteered us to host 2nd Christmas for him, my MIL, my SIL, and her family of 8 (at least they're the only ones who live close to us...) My husband tried to shut it down and draw a line, but my FIL tells him how important it is to him for us to get together. Im trying to be understanding because my FIL is usually not pushy with anything, never makes any special rquests, and MIL has dementia so he's trying to make as many memories with family as he can. But this whole this has blown up. My SIL wasn't giving us any feedback if she was coming or not, saying she might but she might not, and she didn't know. I told my husband to text her because feeding 6 people vs feeding 14 is a big difference. So he texts her for a definite answer and gets back to him, saying they wanna come over, but her kids have been exposed to Covid. But they'll see hiw everyone is feeli g on Sunday. I put my foot down and told my husband hell no. She told me last weelend she didnt even want to have any extra holiday celebrations because she's been crazy busy lately and is exhausted, but now she wants to come to our house? And after having been exposed to Covid? I told him he needed to reschedule with his sister, and we could get together another day. Let's hope this doesn't turn into another dramatic holiday...

Bonus, now I'm stressed about my baby girl's 1st birthday next week, because idk if my SIL will show up with her family, having been exposed to Covid, and possibly pass it to us if they catch it...