Why do some women/ppl look down on traditional women

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Honestly it’s a bit weird to me that some people look down or think of traditional women as lazy. I don’t know why wanting to be taken care of by your husband,wanting to be a stay at home mom and being dependent on your husband is bad. I am all for women being independent and women empowerment all that but i don’t want to have to put in all the extra work outside of the home when I can do it inside the household. Especially when the kids are young don’t get me wrong it’s great for women to have a college degree and be able to use it for a job especially when the kids are grown up. That’s personally my plan after the kids are grown and I’m done having kids. Even if that wasn’t my plan I see nothing wrong with wanting to stay at home and focus on your husband and the household. Like I love being a women I love being feminine I love being lead and dependent on my husband especially if he has no problem providing for me and our family. I love him coming home to a nice cooked meal and slutting me out after a long day. I love doing his laundry and everything else that i do in the household that makes us happy and safe. Don’t even get me started about the media these days trying to make marriage look like it will always end up in divorce or making it seems like marriage isn’t a beautiful thing. I have never lost hope in love even though it was challenging when i started dating.But I love everything about being married because it comes with so many benefits from both people in all aspect. I love it so much and I consider it one of my biggest achievement in life. Honestly I don’t really care too much about what people think. Just my 2cent slash rant.

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Women need to support women. I see just as much judgment from the other side. SAHMs judging working moms and calling them bad parents for having or choosing to work. Every woman needs to decide what's best for herself and her family.

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I personally dont know why people feel the need to constantly be so defensive about their life choices. 
Everyone deals with judgment, no matter what choices you make in life. Who cares. Just live your life free of care for what other people think of you.

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I think it's a bit if jealousy. 
These days the average home needs both partners working inorder to survive. Personally I work full-time, have two toddlers and still keep a house so when people are fortunate enough to get to work from home or rely on husband, I do feel a little jealous. I would never verbalise it though.

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Being a stay at home mom isn’t lazy, you work 24/7, but I think your other view points are a little problematic. Insinuating women should stay at home, shouldn’t work, shouldn’t be educated, should want to be in service to their husband and be thankful for it... that’s all fine and dandy for you, but not for everyone. Whether you stay at home or not, you should be able to be independent if needed. If something were to happen to your husband, what would you do? That’s why it’s important for women to be educated, have degrees, know how to hold down a fort without their husband “leading” them.

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I have no issue with either spouse choosing the unpaid job of taking care of a home. I don't see it as the working spouse "taking care of" the stay at home spouse though. And I guess I see it more as a partnership than dependency. 
If both spouses work then they both have to pitch in to take care of the home when they are not working. And if one stays home, then one takes care of the home during work hours and share the responsibility with their spouse after work hours. 
In any case, both spouse should be able to manage independently if they need to and each should support and encourage independence (rather than dependence) in their spouse.

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The only bad thing about being dependent on someone is if they’re an abusive shit, they step out (cheat), you aren’t married and they die with no written will , you split up or they’re terrible with handling finances and spend constantly . 
I’ve had my fiancé’s grandmother accuse him of chaining me to a room all day with no freedom. A serious overdramatic accusation. I’ve also had people think I sit on my ass all damn day which isn’t true. I’m constantly cleaning a mess, I’m constantly changing diapers, I sit on the couch breastfeeding watching Netflix while my toddler is running around playing. I walk to the grocery store to get food and personals. I help manage our money spending and make sure rent is paid. I make sure our kids get to their doctor appointments. 
I don’t like being a stay at home mom all the time but I’ll be damn if someone calls me lazy. Some people just don’t understand not everyone can afford childcare or have family to watch kids. 
Everyone is making their own moves so I feel like the judging that happens from both sides is that those people aren’t happy with their own life.

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Mostly capitalist propaganda trying to co-opt women's liberation by steering it heavily towards career and paid labor.
But I think a lot of people have an icky reaction to submissiveness from women now- and I think that's understandable. There's really not much that seems liberated or rebellious about a woman who likes to be lead. But hey, we are all different. To a degree I get it. I've led others in relationships, I'm a lot more dominant, but at this point don't enjoy imbalanced power dynamics. Some people do, I'm not going to shame that. 
I've had at least one experience where I wasn't working & felt like a housewife living with a partner, cooking & cleaning & running things at home. It's exhausting & probably is a lot more work with kids. People should respect care work more, because it build society. Raising a family is important & valid work, paid or not. Nothing lazy about it.

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Giving me destiny’s child - cater 2 you vibes. Love it! Ain’t nothing wrong with this, im all for women whatever it is that makes them happy or what’s comfortable for them. I never look down on women who work 2 jobs, 1 job or have no job. Go you tho 👏🏽

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It’s none of anyone’s business, frankly. What works in one household might not work in the other. 
As someone who’s been ultra focused on their career their entire adulthood and was very successful, I don’t mind being a housewife now. I give my 100% in everything I do. I can’t wait to get back into my passion especially while getting lucrative offers, but for right now I’m loving putting all my effort into my husband and home. I support any woman that chooses to do so.

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Sounds like you’re really happy in your marriage and that’s great! No one else’s opinion matters. For what it’s worth, I see a big shift happening as more people come around to the idea of just doing what is best for them/their family. Far less “shaming” on both sides.

Why do some women/ppl look down on traditional women

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