Boyfriend refuses to do aftercare because it’s “too feminine”

My boyfriend of a year has a habit of just getting up and leaving after we have sex. He doesn’t cuddle with me or talk with me. He literally cums, says he had fun and basically leaves to clean up then plays a game or watches TV. I hate this. It makes sex feel transactional and makes me feel more like a fuck buddy than a romantic partner. I just feel kind of used after we do it. Last night after we had sex, I told him how I felt about the lack of aftercare and he disagreed with everything I said. He said that women see sex as a “fairytale” because they wanna be held and stuff afterwards. But for guys, “it’s not that serious” and after finishing, it’s time to move on with their day. He says that aftercare makes sex feel more like a chore instead of something pleasurable and fun. Am I asking for too much? Is this normal for men? I really don’t want to break up with him over this but the lack of emotion and care is starting to make me check out of any sexual activity with him.