Can we normalize age gaps?

Just a little rant! Can we normalize wanting 4-5 year age gaps between kids? I always thought I'd want to pop them out one after another but after having my son 2.5 years ago I realized it's not that simple. Between working full time, paying for daycare, having a toddler who's sick all the time from daycare and having to miss work, sleep regressions, paying for diapers and formula, etc. It isn't in everyone's budget or mental capacity to take on two infants/toddlers at once. We are waiting until my son is in school to start trying for another and I have been asked so many times recently when we're having another child. People have even said "So you're just having one huh?" Someone even told me I'm not a REAL Mom unless I have two kids. Like what? 🥴 not to mention, I want to give my son as much of my attention and love while he's still young and developing as this is the most crucial time for forming life long attachment, confidence, etc. No shame to anyone who wants similar age gaps! I just feel like people think it's weird for wanting to wait.

Can we also normalize just wanting one child? It's totally okay and normal to only want one. I was an only child and turned out just fine.

Okay end rant. 😅