My husband says it's too much work to have sex with me...

I noticed that he'd been masturbating more frequently and he would often inform me that he'd already finished himself by the time he'd come to bed with me which of course decreased the amount of sex we had. I always want to do it lol it's just a matter of whether he wants to or not.

He informed me that it's just easier to get himself off. He doesn't have to get me wet and apparently it's too much work to get me off (I take less than ten minutes I've timed it!)

And he often will act like we're going to do it and then immediately stop and say he doesn't feel like it, too much work. Which leaves me aroused and frustrated.

Even just now we actually looked at porn together, started kissing and getting into it and I said, "what if I wanna come?" And this asshole says, "Then you can do it on your own time." When I appeared very very displeased he tacked on, "Look, I'm just saying it's faster for me to get off." And I climbed off of him and left the room. Sex isn't everything and everything else in our relationship is near bperfect but this is hard for me to deal with. I even implied that maybe I should find another sexual partner once (we aren't against being open) and he just felt confused and said he couldn't help himself and the way he is.

What should I do? Seriously I'm at a loss...