Midwife or obgyn which are you having? If you have advice that would be helpful. I'm having problems trusting my midwife. She seems to be very pushy and controlling and is under a male obgyn which I don't in the slightest bit trust or feel good about. I don't trust her at all neither does my husband. We are already 22 weeks in and I'm concerned that if we try to switch now no one is going to take us. Does anyone else have this problem? They are pushing a pelvic exam which I don't feel comfortable with anyways because I'm always so sensitive down there and she has rushed everything we've gotten done so far I don't want her to do something we dont trust and have it end up hurting me because of her carelessness.