Divorce advice

My husband is in the military and my mental health declined a lot to where I stopped working for a while and my husband said it was ok if I didn't I'm struggling a ton with depression, social anxiety, abandonment, and BPD. He left to Italy and wants a divorce but didn't tell me until all of my things were shipped to Italy he took all the money out of our account and refuses to let me have anything to just support myself a little bit... fortunately we don't have kids, what is the process of getting divorced and getting back everything in my name back? Is he allowed to take all of the money out of joint account?